So he doesn’t want to see a therapist for better communication but he can’t communicate “hey, I need to deposit $300 to my family at the end of the month”

How is she suppose to know your family depends on you financially if you can’t talk to her about it. Plus, how willingly would anyone send money to STRANGERS? (Because he’s never really introduced her to his kids and other important people).

They need therapy. He need therapy

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    10 months ago

    Lol you guys amaze me in understanding culture.

    Guy is a construction worker! You know what their reputation in Latin America is? They make decent money but are very poorly educated. They are hard workers but their money goes towards beer and brothels. Just look at him and his attitude he screams this.

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      10 months ago

      Ugh reflects my experience dating one. Love a hard worker, do not love the alcoholism and lying

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    Obviously he should have talked to her about it, but her assumption was he was just going to be a deadbeat dad? Of course he needs to support his teenage kids!

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      I think if you don’t have kids, you don’t think about those things. I know that sounds stupid, but love is blind. With all his lies and “privacy,” she might well of assumed he had it handled. Let’s face it, she’s overlooked a lot of issues.

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    The way this guy smirked and laughed throughout every serious discussion Ashley was trying to have was like filling me with rage I didn’t know I had. Fuck this fuck head. He is stupid as fuck and has weird ass wonky eyes he should probably get checked out. He is not a prize whatsoever.

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    10 months ago

    If she starts sending $300 a month to somebody south of the border, I will… ok I know it’s going to happen.

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    She’s stupid. He’s not into her at all, he’s using her and looking for a way to disappear and go to his family in New York.

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      I don’t think he’ll leave her until she stops sending money down south. He’ll suck her dry before moving on. She needs to wise up: having sex after arguing is teaching him that he gets a “reward” for piss poor behavior. Drop him, honey.

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    Sadly, this negative attitude towards therapy doesn’t just exist with people from countries other than the US. I offer up my husband as exhibit A. I continually get told that I am the one with the problems and that if I want things to be better than I need to fix myself. (Note: I’ve been seeing a therapist since I was 16 years old for severe cPTSD. For anyone keeping score at home, that’s 40+ years of counseling.🤬)

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    This guy is a real piece of work. He doesn’t care about Ashley at all. He’s just waiting for the right time to go to New York.

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    This guy is like Louis with Molly 2.0, just older and more than likely has a full family he’s promised to bring here. Red flags everywhere. I’m not usually the one to say this, but he’s definitely scamming her.

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    This is the guy who said with a totally straight face that if Ashley was a witch, she would have put a spell on her ex and her ex would have stayed. Since her ex left, she can’t be a witch. Fool proof logic there.

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    10 months ago

    All these negative traits u guys are listing out for on manuel are the reasons why she with him , she wont do better she literally chose this man both are assholes tbh

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    I would’ve been out when his preteen kids don’t know of my existence after 2 years of dating. Our adorable little witch needs to move on.