My parents and my younger sister do not want me to be okay and happy and everything is worse now.
As a breadwinner in my family, I never received such fair treatment coming from my parents. I just work all the time, and I am currently sick due to overfatigue and was not able to go to work for a week now. They are just expecting too much out of my when I feel like their expectations is really a burden now. They even meddle with my personal affairs, like love, which my sister didn’t even experience. My parents let my sister do all the things she wants to even if caused a lot of money or even if she will abandon all her duties inside our house. To the point that it is normal for her to return to the house at 5am in the morning. But when I do that, I would get an earful and will sooner receive a silent treatment for weeks.
But today would be the worst of it all. I am currently in a relationship after being single for 2 years. I am happy. I have a lot of plans. I want to be with her. However, my parents at first were understanding (or do they) but when my sister came in to the scene, they left me long messages, meddling with my relationship, discouraging me and even gaslighting me to the point that I remember that these are things that stopped me in looking for someone that I could love and soon marry. And I think that this dream of mine won’t happen again.
I am tired. O God, please help me.
Yeah, you have to cut ties. You have no responsability to them if they exploit the help you give. Your sister can work too, as can your patents.
They are lazy and ungrateful.
Get a place of your own. They have no business in your life if they act that ungrateful. They use you, because they have trained you to submit to their liking. They should be grateful not entitled.
If you cut ties now, at least for a while until they show betterment in every regard. You may not resent them for the rest of your life. Make it clear that their unacceptable behavior has lead to this situation.
You have no legal responsability toward them. A cultural maybe, but they have one too. to be grateful and supporting. They are neither.