Maybe try betterhelp?(Or similar) It’s about 60~90 dollars probably isn’t as good as a traditional therapist(All tho not all traditional therapists are good) but I guess it’s better than nothing, at least it’s someone licensed that will listen to you

Aren’t you the horse from Horsin Around?

Yeah, you have to cut ties. You have no responsability to them if they exploit the help you give. Your sister can work too, as can your patents.

They are lazy and ungrateful.

Get a place of your own. They have no business in your life if they act that ungrateful. They use you, because they have trained you to submit to their liking. They should be grateful not entitled.

If you cut ties now, at least for a while until they show betterment in every regard. You may not resent them for the rest of your life. Make it clear that their unacceptable behavior has lead to this situation.

You have no legal responsability toward them. A cultural maybe, but they have one too. to be grateful and supporting. They are neither.

I think a 12-step group would be useful to you right now and they’re completely free and available online or via phone. Maybe start with ACA, which started out for Adult Children of Alcoholics but also now encompasses anyone who grew up with any dysfunction in the house—I’ve met folks who had narcissistic parents, hoarding, etc. I’ve done one-on-one therapy and 12-step work off and on for years and honestly, when I really invest in the step work and groups, it’s like a rocket to new understanding. I wish you peace and commend you for starting the journey to making things different for yourself. It takes courage and bravery.

Sorry to hear about your situation. I think the best course of action is to physically and emotionally distance yourself from your family, which is easier said than done. I should know; di ko pa nga rin nagagawa, eh, LOL.

Physically: How are your finances? Your job security? Can you move out and support yourself? If not, you need to get to this point first. In my experience, kahit anong therapy and meds mo, if same lang yung environment, hindi ka rin talaga mag-iimprove mentally kasi laging present yung source of all your problems. If you live in the metro, rent is going to be very expensive, but the outskirts (Rizal, Antipolo, Cavite, Bulacan) may be easier to afford.

Emotionally: Cutting off your family or reducing contact with them is not easy, especially in Filipino culture. Sometimes, it feels downright impossible because of cultural traits like utang na loob. If you do decide to move out, you need to also adjust your way of thinking. Train yourself early to stop feeling guilty about leaving your family behind. They will have lots to say about your decision and may even talk to relatives behind your back. But if that’s the price of your peace of mind, then it’s worth it. Hayaan mo na lang sila. You can’t let other people stop you from improving your mental health. I’m also the breadwinner in my family so I don’t give this advice lightly. I know the consequences. But if they treat you like shit, then you need to get out, simple as that.

Regarding therapy, maganda talaga na maumpisahan yan as early as possible. There are counselors and therapists who conduct online sessions; these might be easier for you than going to their office. Note lang na expensive din ang therapy (usually at least ₱2k per session, pero baka may mas mura) so these will cut into your expenses.

Finding the love of your life may feel like the most important goal right now, but your relationships will keep on failing as long as your situation is the same. Your family will keep on meddling. So, change your situation first as much as you can. You’ll feel better about yourself, and you’ll have better relationships as a result.