She looks so crazy in the trailer for next week, screaming her head off when TJ is trying to talk to her about her depression. I mean, of course she’s depressed, she can’t work and she’s in a foreign country without her friends and family. That’s the show. That being said, I can’t stand her, and I’m really liking the brother-in-law more and more, especially when he laughs at her.
She’s the prime example of why trying to burn sage, light candles, do yoga and collect rocks (sorry, crystals) to treat psychological issues and past trauma doesn’t work. It’s weird how it’s always the same profile of people who do this, but who won’t go and seek therapy, a psychiatrist, and/or medication. Her behaviour is a manifestation of a lot of issues that she is now putting on others. That’s not to say that it wouldn’t absolutely suck being a housemaid to an entire family who belong to another culture, but it isn’t as if Indian culture is shrouded in secrecy, she could have easily found all of this out. She’s entitled and needs professional help.
Everyone kept blaming TJ because he lied to her about her household duties. Truth is, she won’t be happy ever without some medical assistance. No shame in that. Until then, she’s going to have a salty life.
People generally aren’t burning sage, lighting candles or collecting crystals to treat psychological issues. Those things are a part of valid spiritual practice, and I don’t really know anyone who does that stuff who doesn’t believe in going to the doctor. I’ve been seeing a therapist since I was 12 and I take Wellbutrin, but I also consult a shaman once in a while. Some people do all of the things. I would be willing to try anything to treat depression - ketamine, shrooms, dream therapy, whatever. I would say that people who are more open minded to these things are more likely to seek help and various therapists.
1000% agreed
Same. As one of these people, the communities I’m in are heavily supportive of these practices as a part of your life, but NOT as a substitute for actual medical care and medication. Are there people in these communities who shun medical care? Absolutely, but there are people in EVERY community like this. My therapist is very supportive of my practice, but it’s also not a crutch.
You dont know many people who use sage and carry rocks do you? Most of the ones i know absolutely support therapy and seeking professional help. Please dont lump us together because of what you see on tv.
Surprisingly the people i know who WONT seek a therapist, are people who arent open to other peoples ways of dealing with trauma.
1 thousand percent this. It’s not enough for her to say “oh I grew up in a toxic home I don’t want that” there has to be reckoning, recovery, sometimes yes therapy. Work has to go into recognizing patterns, establishing support systems that aren’t TJ, etc. Is there a term for passport bros (passport hos?) when it’s pretty clear the relationship is just a weird fetishization or self medication?
I feel attacked 😭😭😭
Well said 👏🏾 👏🏽👏🏼👏🏻
Well said 👏🏾 👏🏽👏🏼👏🏻
That’s right though. The usual folks who gravitate towards pop spirituality (activities that you listed including tarot etc.) I feel are using it as an escape from actual deep work and accountability often times. This goes for religion too…just dodging the real painful stuff and masking it thru spiritual activities rather than actually getting to the root.
Hey, it happens. Life is rough. So is Indian life as an American.
That’s right though. The usual folks who gravitate towards pop spirituality (activities that you listed including tarot etc.) I feel are using it as an escape from actual deep work and accountability often times. This goes for religion too…just dodging the real painful stuff and masking it thru spiritual activities rather than actually getting to the root.
Hey, it happens. Life is rough. So is Indian life as an American.
I have a spiritual practice that helps me immensely with my mental health issues. I also see a therapist and psychiatrist regularly and am medicated. However therapy & medication does not work for me without my spiritual practice. Slapping someone in the face with pills is just a band-aid, not a lasting resolution in my experience. Spirituality and western medicine do not necessarily negate each other.
If the correct psychiatric medication is not working for you without spiritual practices - then it isn’t the right medication. Sorry to say, but that’s the be all and end all of it. Spiritual practices and meditation may aid in calming or focusing your transient emotional states, but they have absolutely NO bearing on psychiatric medication, if it is correct and given in the correct doses. I’m a doctor, so, I’m really not sure I’m the right audience for comments like this. I’m happy it helps you.
okay this is a BAD take, especially for a doctor
in mental health, medication is often used transitionally while people learn other ways to manage their symptoms
This is identical to saying a patient wouldn’t need therapy if they were only on the right medication
If the correct psychiatric medication is not working for you without spiritual practices - then it isn’t the right medication. Sorry to say, but that’s the be all and end all of it. Spiritual practices and meditation may aid in calming or focusing your transient emotional states, but they have absolutely NO bearing on psychiatric medication, if it is correct and given in the correct doses. I’m a doctor, so, I’m really not sure I’m the right audience for comments like this. I’m happy it helps you.
Exactly! I’m also spiritual, but I would never use my own practice in replacement of modern medicine. Like I see spirituality as helpful for introspection and things like meditation do have health benefits - but it is nowhere near medicine and modern healthcare. People should still see medical professionals if they need them. Spirituality isn’t going to help much there.