So for me personally, my mom was around when I was growing up, but wasn’t available emotionally or anything, we didn’t really speak for about 10 years (except for her asking me for money) until I was going through my divorce, and suddenly she was around and demanding to know why I didn’t tell her my ex and I were having issues/getting divorced/whatever other details she believed that she was privy to. Like at that point, I was 30 and trying to work through not only the trauma of 10 years in abusive relationships and starting my life over, but the trauma of my childhood. Having her not only be suddenly “interested” in my life but DEMANDING of personal information and throwing out her unwanted opinions that she had no basis giving was really…offputting. She missed her chance to parent me when I needed it. Because of that, I have a visceral reaction to people like she was at the beginning of the season (not that she didn’t have valid criticisms).
Same. As one of these people, the communities I’m in are heavily supportive of these practices as a part of your life, but NOT as a substitute for actual medical care and medication. Are there people in these communities who shun medical care? Absolutely, but there are people in EVERY community like this. My therapist is very supportive of my practice, but it’s also not a crutch.