I’m rewatching TOW Season 4 and I just do not get this guy. He knew he couldn’t marry Jen, so why keep her on the hook for 3 years? He couldn’t have gotten a visa out of it. Did he actually love her??? That feels doubtful. Was he chasing 90 day clout? I don’t get it. What do y’all think?
I get the impression that people like this are just really avoidant of conflict. They’ll say or promise whatever the nearest person wants to hear, even though they know that they can’t keep all of those promises.
I think you’re bang on here. They don’t like the conflict, and I don’t think he really wanted to hurt Jen. I think he loved her, and probably knew deep down it wasn’t ever going to work out, but didn’t want to see her go.
Spot on, I know people like this and it’s infuriating sometimes. You can’t really have a discussion with them because they just say “you’re right, I will” then do the same thing
this is especially true in asian cultures where the concept of “face” and “saving face” is so important
Sumit was/did the same