“I only slept with you before him. You realize, right? So yes, it’s a big deal for me to sleep with somebody else who’s not my husband, so I had to keep a connection with him.” Make it make sense. That’s her rationale??? And we call (rightfully) Aseulo a bit dense?
Nobody owes their abuser anything. I think it comes down to if you believe her or not. I’ve been SA’d and been through DV. It sucked and I wish I had left sooner, but you don’t see a way out at the time. I get it. I also happen to not believe her, I really just don’t. I’m not going to argue about it or explain why, because I am not trying to change anyone’s mind. I completely get why people do believe her too and that’s fine.
I don’t believe her, so I’m tossing that part and just comparing the rest of their relationship and in that case I think they’re both shitty people.
Anyways my point is, people who believe her feel like its being glossed over. The people who don’t believe her, really don’t believe it happened so we continue to talk about the rest of thejr relationship. I’m not thinking a rape happened and ignoring it, and I don’t think the others are either. We just legit don’t think it happened so we moved along. I hope that explains it decently.
You’re entitled to think and believe whatever you want, but you probably didn’t need to state that you thought she was lying about being sexually assaulted online.
The guy gives every sign of being a sex addict, and it’s completely plausible. We’ve also seen her be nothing but honest.
This is me, too. Down to the DV history. It’s not impossible that it happened. But it doesn’t sit as truth to me.