They said early on in this season that she lived in India for a year before deciding to move there permanently to be with TJ. Did people not see where she said that the things she chose for the apartment construction were not what she picked out before she left? Why is everyone saying she should have researched the culture? I’m pretty sure living there for a year can equal to doing some research on the internet.

  • Frosty-Cheetah-8499@alien.topBEnglish
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    1 year ago

    i just spent a month in india.

    to assume it’s a monolith of culture is ridiculous and stupid. for example- there’s over 700 languages spoken in india. imagine how many religious practices exist.

    We traveled a small amount but experienced a multitude of languages, religious practices and “norms”. my ex is also Jain (TJs religion) and they absolutely didn’t burn dung or do half the things his family did. it’s not simple to google specific things like that- different communities or families do things differently.

    it was TJs responsibility to tell her what she needs to expect and to show her how he expects them to live as a couple.

    also, being a tourist is absolutely different than becoming part of a culture via marriage.

    if I live somewhere for a year- and get engaged- the person i’m marrying should explain exactly how married life will look for us and what’s expected of me. especially knowing i’m from another culture or religion.