As a child I was groomed by a man in my village and I see a lot of similarities between the way bj and my groomer acted. Do you guys think bojack intended to do something with penny for what ever reason and groomed her? ( reminds her of Charlotte at an early age/ makes it feel like he’s back in his youth?) or was it an opportunity taken impulsively?
I saw this great video a while ago about the subtle things groomers do. They confide in the minor, they make it seem like the parents don’t understand them, they keep secrets with them, and maybe I few other points I’ve forgotten off the top of my head. A lot of people have defended bojack as “not a groomer” because he didn’t “intend” to go after penny. But the thing is, if you know what signs to look for, he does all of those things. Whether or not that was his intention, he is manipulative, he placed himself in a position to earn Penny’s trust and approval. It may be an unpopular opinion but I think he did Groom her.
So does that mean aunts and uncles are grooming their neices and nephews? Because they don’t have intent to sleep with them. Yes bojack is a manipulative but that doesn’t make him a groomer. Grooming is intentional not accidemtal
I think Bojack’s desire to be the center of attention and have everyone like him led him to do some things that at the very least have the same effect as grooming, even if that wasn’t the intent.
Bojack, especially in the early seasons, doesn’t really know how not to manipulate people. It’s kind of all he knows because that’s the horrible world he grew up, never experiencing love and thinking you have to coerce people into liking you.
And it’s just going to be a disaster if you put someone like that around impressionable teenagers.
I think I just learned I was groomed as a kid