Why I think he is emotionally abusive:
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He doesn’t translate everything as he should and only translates in a manner that suits his situation and needs.
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Omits essential information all the time.
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Right before the wedding he decides to break up because she confided in her parents. But it’s okay when he does the same and turns everyone against her. Who runs to their mommy after there’s been a fight with a partner and talks shit about them to their entire family?
4.He always has to have the upper hand: Threatens to leave Kimberly or asks her to leave in every fight, Whenever he is asked to make a compromise - “Am I your servant?” “I’m not your servant” wth does that even mean?
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In effect he has entirely isolated her from his family and is trying to isolate her from her own family too.
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Straight up lied about the family situation and “wifely duties”.
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No safe space for Kimberly to go to, no one to confide in
Controlling someone in that manner and stripping away their identity bit by bit is absolutely not okay. I say this not because Kimberly is expected to make compromises, but because she is being expected to keep quiet about things that bother her and change the way she thinks. The situation is classic 101 guide in how to break someone’s spirit and make them complacent.
Yup I’ve been saying this the entire time too ever since the first episode this season. I don’t understand why everyone here in Reddit loves TJ so much and bashes the shit out of Kimberly all day every day. And Reddit always downvoted the hell out of anyone who thinks TJ and his family are the abusive ones.
It’s a pattern that reddit always goes after the woman. Just look at darcy during the og 90 day. Sure, she was ditzy, kind of annoying and drank a bit too much, but Jesse and Tom were absolute ghouls - yet 90% of the hate here was aimed at her.