Seriously I had boyfriends before I got married who tried to be like “oh I should have visitation with the dog” or “I should get the dog every other weekend,” and when we broke up they would try to claim that I would be like FUCK NO! I’m very happily married now but if something were to happen and my husband were to try to take my dog, there is no way In hell that would pass.
My boyfriend co-parents his dog with his ex. It made sense (to them) at the time because they share two kids and so they treated the dog as a third kid, trading houses whenever the kids did. But now… The poor dog is 16 and is being schlepped from house to house. His ex isn’t the best mom but kids are verbal and can express their needs (i’m hungry, i’m tired etc). She has cats and she often finds the dog eating from the cat food. I mean there are solutions for that (keep the cat food at a high place etc)
I just feel sooooooo bad for this dog.