I have moved so much, sometimes for men; the most isolated I have ever felt is with a partner Even more isolated when I’ve stayed with their family…
Even when I lived in English speaking countries- there is so much cultural isolation. It will make you nuts, I am sorry girl-
I feel for her. People are focusing on the scream, but just a minute before she literally asked for a hug and “I’m sorry you feel depressed” (the bar is in HELL!!!) and he was like “I will never do that.” I would probably lose my shit on my partner too!
Yeah, after a season of thinking she was garbage (still is kinda) I watched that scene and felt that scream was justified
She’s still garbage, it’s just clear that he is also.
Agreed. I think TJ just had it up to here with her attitude. She arrived in India with a bad attitude and it was a catalyst to the in-laws not liking her. If she was otherwise an easy going, not hot tempered person, he would likely have given her that hug but he’s done. She said she’s a bitch, her father said she was, TJ said she loses her temper easily. She is just the worst. She is not even trying.
This last episode really changed my opinions of Kimberly and Ashley. Kimberly deserves better and so does Rico Motherfucking Suave.
I couldn’t imagine moving to another country and not learning the language. This is only really possible if you’re in a city or near a city in that country with tourists or English speakers. This is something she should have thought of in advance instead of isolating herself. Now that she’s in this position, she can either learn the language and culture and work to integrate with them, or leave. If she wasn’t so loud and unacceptable in conflicts with TJ, they’d progress better.
TJ isn’t a saint either… going to complain to family during a conflict. He needs a good therapist because I can understand how lonely he must feel that nobody in his family cares to understand and empathize with him.
I was ready to grab my popcorn and enjoy this long awaited scene but it was just…sad. She seemed very sincere when talking about her depression and calm, like she really wanted help from her husband with a resolution. Instead he basically says if she has depression it’s her fault. And he quite literally ran to his mom crying after that.
I actually cannot believe people are hating on her. TJ literally lied to her about the life she’d have in order to get her to marry, and the family treats her like shit. She’s boxed in on all sides with no help, and her husband is unwilling to even try to help.
Screw the help, she just want a damn hug to start, and acknowledgement that she is depressed… This titty baby is unwilling to do any of that!
People can call her crazy all they want but if I was in her situation, I’d be acting crazy too. My only gripe is how she did not realize what her life would become in the 6 months she lived there ahead of the wedding.
She asked him repeatedly about the apartment and about what was to be expected of her. TJ even announced on t.v. he was lying to her or else she wouldn’t have married him.
Sounds like Kimberly was really clear about what her expectations were while TJ was gaslighting her the whole time.
I’m so happy for everyone saying they’re never act this way or they can’t imagine ever being like this. I’m glad your mental health has never deteriorated significantly and that you’ve never felt the things Kimberly is feeling. But the complete lack of empathy terrifies me.
this part right here
People refuse to view reality starts as human. Or maybe they do see they’re human, I’m really concerned on how they treat others in their lives.
I’m not sorry. You chose this life.
Why didn’t she prepare herself for the culture she was about to join? I believe she with a google search could have found out wedding traditions and meanings along with a woman’s rule in Indian culture. I couldn’t take it however I would have prepared myself (I don’t think you can until you live it) as much as possible. She,in my opinion, flies by the seat of her pants then doesn’t understand why things aren’t going her way. She needs to go back home
I think LIVING in India for a year is pretty informative wouldn’t you say? also her potential husband lying by telling her she will be exempt from all cultural expectations doesn’t help. Google can’t help that he lied to her.
I’d say you are right. Doesn’t seams as if she saw things unfortunately when we are happy we let things pass
contrast this to the other post that’s like “i don’t have ANY sympathy for the travelling partner”
I have been a trailing spouse for much of my marriage and i don’t care how cool the country you are moving to is and how supported you may feel in taking that leap, it is always going to be somewhat hard to leave everything behind. people keep saying the same thing about sophie (and rob the knob) saying she has no one to turn to. she might have family on the other end of a facetime video and financial resources to rent that airbnb away from rob’s place, but you still really can’t imagine how ALONE you can feel when you’re in a new place with few friends, new things to figure out, few comforts from home
contrast this to the other post that’s like "i don’t have ANY sympathy for the traveling partner"rite type of chips or whatever can be isolating because you have basically rearranged your whole life. most of the time, when you have a supportive partner, it’s worth it even when its hard. but if you’re partner is contributing to the stress and disphoria by lying or hiding stuff from you? it fucking sucks
Moving for men is crazy. To me
Yea sometimes
I agree. She was laughable because she claims to be clairvoyant but didn’t see ANY OF THIS COMING. But I do take isolation and depression seriously and that relationship was not nurturing on his end. And perhaps it is cultural, but even if she spoke the language, I don’t think the MIL and the brother would warm up to her. Especially if Kim was unwilling or unable to fulfill whatever role was expected of her.
The whole marriage was DOA but it is unfortunate to see that TJ lacks the maturity and compassion to be a loving husband.
She knew all of this BEFORE she married him and now she’s acting like a spoiled brat. What did she think would happen after they got married? His whole family would turn into Americans and the whole neighborhood would come to her house and befriend her and all learn English just for her so she can be comfortable??? She CHOSE to move to India. She should have immediately signed up for language classes. If she didn’t want that kind of life she shouldn’t have moved there. How does she think immigrants feel when they move to America and don’t have friends and don’t understand the language. Suck it up buttercup.
Well, then it seems you both suck at picking partners. Then you’re also the types that completely ignore people who tell you to run and find the dumbest arguments about why you’re still together. If Kimberly had any common sense, she’d have been back in the states away from that mess.
Actually, jerk, I am amazing at picking partners. Feeling Isolated can happen no matter how nice your partner is. I feel bad for the people in your life, not allowed to be open about feeling vulnerable. You must be a real good time.
That whole household would make anyone scream. Poor Kimberly.