Even though I think she could try harder to integrate, it’s clear they just want her gone at this point which doesn’t make it any easier. She never even mentions going back, but they constantly jump to that whenever there’s a problem rather than trying to find a solution. They seemed to really embrace her with the wedding and all but either it was for all for show or she’s really worn her welcome. TJ looks so fed up but that’s what he gets for deceiving her honestly.
Kim needs to get professional help. Her self imposed boundaries and inability to compromise or get along with most everyone are not things she can work on herself and get better. She needs to learn why she behaves the way she does and how she needs to change in order to have healthy relationships.
agreed. the edit, the fact that we don’t know these people in real life aside, it’s pretty clear from my pov that she’s projecting and repressing alllll that stuff about her childhood and her past and current relationship dynamic with her mom and siblings–she’s the black sheep, or sees herself that way. the black sheep/victimhood narrative is the framework for how she sees the world and it will continue to result in toxic relationships until she does some work on herself. while tj, his mom and yash may not be fair to Kim and may actually be jerks, I can see them completely perplexed and exhausted by her big reactions to what they see as normal expectations.
It seems that the edit about him not telling her what was expected of her was only partially true as it seems she knew there were expectations she would help his mom. Taj may not have told her everything and obviously he was wrong about that as it’s contributing to her stress and histrionics and his families frustration however, she knew a few days after the wedding and if it was impossible for her to fulfill those expectations, she should have told Taj. That she basically holed up in the apartment for 3 months waiting for him to say ok, you don’t have to help or get along with my family and I’ll cut my hours at work so I can squire you around town as your interpreter was not remotely rational. Also considering she deemed herself depressed I would assume she had a therapist in the states she could call for help and if not, plenty of online counselors/ doctors. Sad to see a young woman be in such a state and not take any steps to help herself.
from my personal experience, I would imagine that if she had a therapist, they may not be trauma-trained, particularly in cptsd which given the little we do know about her history and what she said, may be necessary (obvi this is a jump, on my part and I’m not qualified to diagnose but can speak based on the similarities I see in my experience versus hers). it can take years to understand how childhood trauma may shape your interactions with anyone, not just family, when you’re an adult and even moreso difficult to acknowledge to yourself that you’re not “over it.”