Even though I think she could try harder to integrate, it’s clear they just want her gone at this point which doesn’t make it any easier. She never even mentions going back, but they constantly jump to that whenever there’s a problem rather than trying to find a solution. They seemed to really embrace her with the wedding and all but either it was for all for show or she’s really worn her welcome. TJ looks so fed up but that’s what he gets for deceiving her honestly.
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They just want a submissive servant
Well…she’s not happy, never wanted to integrate, she knew this. She knew her and TJ were always arguing, his brother hated her…yet she went through with the wedding anyway. Foolish her and him.
You could see her heart break when he told her to go back home. Telling your depressed wife who wants a hug to go back home Oh Kim. Just go back and be happy because you are not getting any happiness there now
Why doesn’t she get a tutor to learn Hindi. Another woman can teach her the language and the culture. How to do shopping there, Womens groups, she can use her time well.
His family has made no attempt to learn English. If they were kind to her and tried to learn English and she tried to learn Hindi, there could be a bond.
That family wanted her out from the beginning but TJ wanted his prize and Kim is a dumb ass who didn’t get it
It’s been pretty clear since she showed up that life in India was not for her. They really shouldn’t have ever gotten married. I don’t like her but living with your spouse and his family feels kind of hellish, especially in a foreign country. And the cow poop would have had me on a plane home by that night
Honestly, after last nights episode… TJ is repulsive. Giving big ed energy & manipulation. Run Kimberly
It was amazing how he kept twisting her words around, like I really hope she gets her ass out of there. Whatever the spirits said to her clearly didn’t mean his mommy boy ass.
I’m not a fan of Kimberly’s, but I have empathy for her. Depression is no joke. She has been spiraling and has no support. The lack of empathy shown by TJ is terrible. Of course, he has his own issues, but Kimberly needs help. She is clearly stressed out and appears to be having a breakdown.
I have the impression she is immature and not equipped to deal with culture shock and the necessary adjustments as well. It certainly didn’t help that TJ wasn’t honest with her about what was expected of her before they got married.
I know from experience with having a partner from a different culture, love isn’t enough. For a relationship between people from two different cultures, especially where one of them moves to their partner’s country and lives with their family, it’s essential to be mature and prepared to male a lot of effort and to have the love abd support of your partner to help you adjust.
If I had a squirrel in my attic, I’d encourage it to leave as well! But seriously, she needs to return to the US, seek help and learn to regulate her emotions. He needs to grow up and seek companionship within his own culture and belief system.
As someone who moved to a country where I did not speak the language AT ALL, I have some empathy for Kim and it’s at the 3 month point of really being IN it that the depression hits hard. I have been there.
That being said, you HAVE to save yourself. You have to take baby steps to get your shit together and live. Or you quit the experiment. That’s it. She is with a family that doesn’t understand her and a husband who has tapped out on empathy and is now caught in the middle between his family and his wife.
I think Kim’s reality depression has paralyzed her and yes, she could go out of the apartment and she could hang with the family, but sometimes when depression over being isolated and alone hits, those things people suggest are easy to see from the outside but almost impossible to accomplish when you’re locked into your own darkness.
She also doesn’t seem to possess the best coping skills or the utmost in maturity, and that girl has a set of lungs on her. She wasn’t equipped for this kind of life. She’s working from a sunk cost fallacy. She needs to pack her linens and go home. She has passed the point of no return and no burning cow shit is gonna bring her back to center again.
This is the most reasonable comment about her I’ve seen. I’m proud of your growth this season ;)
Thank you, my friend! I appreciate that you see me as reasonable and acknowledge my growth!
She wasn’t equipped for this kind of life
This Is the thought I come back to every time someone suggests that TJ could do XY or z. Like yeah, I think he could do a lot more and better.
But I also think that at some point he would run out of the ability and she still would be in the same place because of this statement.
I have no sympathy for her… she went to a country and still doesn’t know the language 3 months later? She’s a bum.
Some people have a harder time learning a new language than others.
It takes way more than three months to learn a language.
I agree completely. No empathy for her whatsoever. She deserves what she gets.
Agree, when I first moved country I had the world’s worst culture shock and felt extremely isolated. That’s such a hard position to be in. I recently had post partum anxiety and it felt similar in ways, I had flashbacks to my 20ies feeling lonely and isolated. But agree, the onus is also on her. She knew what she was getting into. I think it’s best for her to go back home if she can’t make a life there.
Very well said. I really have empathy for her in this situation but at this point it is beyond her ability to cope and adapt. She needs to go home.
But she lived there for A YEAR before this. She must have had some kind of life, even if it was with expats. Personally, considering she was so reactive over " crazy", I don’t think she gets along with anyone easily and that’s her biggest issue. Eating a meal with people and just smiling isn’t hard to do.
But she wasn’t their daughter-in-law; she was a single woman with rights. Now she is property. https://www.herzindagi.com/society-culture/husband-family-rules-for-daughter-in-law-proves-we-failed-as-a-society-article-217261
So she lived there for a year and was totally clueless about the culture and customs? I don’t buy it.
I lived in Thailand for a year and some of us learned Thai and made local friends (including myself, fortunately, and special shout out to my incredible host dad who gave me Thai lessons for six straight months) BUT out of the group of young expats I was with from across the globe, I was one of the few. A good half of the 40 or so of us left the country with no ability to speak Thai or understanding of the culture.
The biggest difference was where we lived—the kids out in the boonies like me got really integrated since we were the only white people in town most of the time. The kids in Bangkok, however, were constantly surrounded by English-speaking tourists and Thais so it was never really an issue.
I think she was a student then, so she would’ve at least had classmates, classes, etc., to do outside of her home. But, she can’t really explore when she can’t read or speak the language well enough to not get lost or make friends.
I feel for Kimberley feelings. I think she needs help. But even if TJ is immature, if I was shouted at and blamed for everything about what goes bad for 3 months I wouldn’t want to hug her too. Especially when its asked in shouting.
She was immature in the way she was expressing herself. She was constantly attacking TJ and not offering solutions.
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I can’t believe all the cost and hassle they went through with the wedding to throw in the towel after 3 months. They have to also know TJ will be considered damaged goods to single women.
Wouldn’t you??
Her main complaint is that she can’t go out by herself because she doesn’t know the language. Why give her a pass on learning Hindi when no one gives a pass to anyone else here who doesn’t learn the language spoken in the country they move to?