Truthfully, I thought she had a lot of patience especially when they were burning literal shit & sprinkling piss in the house. I think she’s a a basket case at times, but I haven’t seen her do anything that should equal this amount of hate (at least that I remember) . She was literally saying she was depressed and TJ didn’t do a single thing but gaslight her into going back to America and told her it was her own fault. His family seem insufferable & I’m sure most people on here wouldn’t be able to deal with that. Sharing a space with a brother & stepmom who are condescending and rude and demand you to do things that wasn’t planned would make me scream too.
Is the constant lying actually socially acceptable in this culture? That has bothered me from the start with both Sumit and TJ on this show. I mean Sumit lied to Jenny and lied to his parents and then tried to act like it was no big deal that he failed to mention getting married to someone else and that he lied to his parents about the nature of his relationship with Jenny and then he has continually lied to his parents telling them that he wants kids when he has made it abundantly clear that he never wants to be a father. TJ seems to be following the exact same kind of pattern. He acts like it’s no big deal that he’s lied to Kim about a long list of things. Then he actively lies to her and his mother when he’s translating between them. There was another guy from India who lied to his girlfriend and his family a couple seasons ago too and I really sympathize with Kim screaming her head off because that’s pretty close to where I’d be if I found out that someone had been lying to me left and right about pretty much everything we’d ever talked about in our relationship. All of that is serious red flag material to western women and I’m just curious if Indian women are socialized to expect that from men because it’s maddening just to watch for me.
No. Come on, nobody likes lying anywhere. You know that.
I think you’re misconstruing what Sumit and Tejaswi (and Rishi too) are trying to do here. I’ve watched all three of them. I don’t think they’re actively out there trying to lie. They’re trying to obfuscate and delay things as much as possible to try and avoid confrontation. They’re not really so much liars as they are cowards.
I had a similar experience recently where my brother was organizing a quick weekend trip with me and our local cousins. He purposefully avoided inviting one cousin he doesn’t like much. I told him to invite the cousin before word gets out about the trip because then that’ll cause tension in the family. He didn’t. He just kept saying “when the moment’s right, I’ll try and invite him”. Long story short - he never invited him and the ostracized cousin found out, which caused some considerable drama.
Maybe you can argue this particular brand of cowardice is more prevalent among Indian men. I’m still not sure.