Honestly - if my husband: -lied to my about my role in the marriage until immediately after the marriage -let his family ice me out -completely disregards my feelings -disregards the fact that I am depressed & tells me it’s a personal problem -gaslight the shit out of me every time I tried to talk about my feelings

I would probably scream too. I hear ya Kimberly! I’m starting to feel manic for her

  • Sweetcreatureeee@alien.topB
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    She is absolutely not justified. She isn’t even trying. She can use an app? She can go online and meet expats? She could learn Hindi? DO SOMETHING and stop feeding into her mental illness. She’s a grown ass woman, not a child. Own up to your shit and do something about it.

    Oh and TJ sucks

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          Dude I learned conversational Hindi from watching Bollywood movies with subtitles. It’s not hard and she had over 2 years to learn it. She has a YT channel and there are many free Hindi classes. She’s just lazy. They both suck.

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            As an expat, there are alot of things I handle but if people lie to me before i get into a situation, like here, I can’t know if my mind can handle it or not.

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        Nah I have some pretty deep rooted issues and have done some have dealt with horrible horrible trauma. I’m all for feeling your emotions but also, she decided to do this. Fkn own up to the change and be an adult about it. I work with children who have mental health issues/disabilities/ and am also a special education teacher. If I let my students deal with their problems with maladaptive behaviors, who am I really helping out? There is a difference between being gentle with yourself and enabling your mental illness. Esp as an adult. You have to own up to your actions by then. If not by adulthood, then when?