Honestly - if my husband: -lied to my about my role in the marriage until immediately after the marriage -let his family ice me out -completely disregards my feelings -disregards the fact that I am depressed & tells me it’s a personal problem -gaslight the shit out of me every time I tried to talk about my feelings
I would probably scream too. I hear ya Kimberly! I’m starting to feel manic for her
I would scream too.
And I get it. I am also in a foreign country and I have had some depression weeks.
I can’t imagine not having a supportive partner in those moments and I can’t imagine living above a family that doesn’t extend an olive branch or understand the cultural differences.
But also there is a way in which it seems Kimberly holds the same rigidity of TJs family in her expectations. They both come from extremely different cultures with totally different norms and instead of trying to understand they are just looking at the other as “wrong.”
Also it sucks but living in a foreign country can be work. Certainly other Americans live in Jaipur and she can find these people on the internet and make an effort to spend time outside the house with them. She could find something to fill her time, a job or volunteering. She seems to have underestimated what it was to move there.
I feel for her
TJ and his family expect her to 100% conform to whatever they think she should be and don’t seem to be willing to work with her at all. She probably feels like she lost her identity.