I lived in a Caribbean country that had their own version of Sanky Pankys, and the thing is they aren’t like covert. After spending a week in the country, you walk into a room or down the street and you know who they are. They are scammers trying to get with people for money, goods and the like or to leave the country.

The people who come to have relationships with sanky lanky types aren’t like somehow taken by surprise. I often watched tourists come specifically to find partners for the week or life. They are searching it out on purpose. They get partners who are disproportionately better looking than them while still holding the power due to the fact that they have more money than the person trying to get the money.

And so Danielle and Yohan were two side of that game. Each played/used the other. I don’t have real sympathy for either. Their marriage wasn’t like a love marriage but a transaction. The transaction went badly because neither held up their end of the bargain.

I would scream too.

And I get it. I am also in a foreign country and I have had some depression weeks.

I can’t imagine not having a supportive partner in those moments and I can’t imagine living above a family that doesn’t extend an olive branch or understand the cultural differences.

But also there is a way in which it seems Kimberly holds the same rigidity of TJs family in her expectations. They both come from extremely different cultures with totally different norms and instead of trying to understand they are just looking at the other as “wrong.”

Also it sucks but living in a foreign country can be work. Certainly other Americans live in Jaipur and she can find these people on the internet and make an effort to spend time outside the house with them. She could find something to fill her time, a job or volunteering. She seems to have underestimated what it was to move there.

I feel for her

I’m so annoyed by how often the term “abusive” is thrown around on Reddit.

Like are you all perfect communicators with your partners and never get triggered or fight poorly?

TJ has his issue and so does his partner. Hopefully they will figure them out and get better at being partners to each other. I think they do love each other but both has serious communication problems and seem to get triggered extremely easily. Kimberly is the louder one so people have focused on her, but he is also problematic. But not abusive.

I thought the wedding was beautiful. You can’t control nature.

I thought the wedding was beautiful. You can’t control nature.

I don’t agree with Holly, but SA is insanely dangerous. You can’t necessarily buy your way to safety.

On another thread in a different subreddit I’m in, someone from South Africa was like every single person I know knows someone who was murdered and their first house break in was at 13.

However, she should have known this before especially spending time there if the safety would be a dealbreaker for her—it definitely would for me. I would never willingly live there.

I don’t agree with Holly, but SA is insanely dangerous. You can’t necessarily buy your way to safety.

On another thread in a different subreddit I’m in, someone from South Africa was like every single person I know knows someone who was murdered and their first house break in was at 13.

However, she should have known this before especially spending time there if the safety would be a dealbreaker for her—it definitely would for me. I would never willingly live there.

Residency and citizenship are different things. It often takes substantial amount of time to become citizen of another country (meaning you will hold or have the right to hold a passport).

Residency and citizenship are different things. It often takes substantial amount of time to become citizen of another country (meaning you will hold or have the right to hold a passport).

Yeah, it was always a transactional relationship which was the only reason she got away with treating him so poorly. He thought he would be rewarded because she had essentially sold him that. Now he is done.

Also she could have let him pack his clothes and leave. Instead she starts trying to claw back her power by being like you can’t take any clothing I bought you. And tit for tat, I guess he bought the dog so he uses same logic.

She has been controlling and deceptive this whole time. I don’t feel bad for her.

Yeah, it was always a transactional relationship which was the only reason she got away with treating him so poorly. He thought he would be rewarded because she had essentially sold him that. Now he is done.

Also she could have let him pack his clothes and leave. Instead she starts trying to claw back her power by being like you can’t take any clothing I bought you. And tit for tat, I guess he bought the dog so he uses same logic.

She has been controlling and deceptive this whole time. I don’t feel bad for her.

Clayton’s Spanish is some of the best foreign language skills from an American we have seen on the show in a long time. I think that Mormon guy from first season with Brazilian wife had great Portuguese, but most others have had pretty mediocre language skills.

Ashley’s Spanish is pretty bad. Pretty much on par with Danielle’s. I feel like both of them are good enough to be way better if that makes sense but Danielle at least doesn’t seem to have progressed at all over time. And Ashley has been at it for ten years too?

Water and electricity are definitely way cheaper than in Europe. And you are so right that it is our habit to use it for like a few pieces of clothing without thinking about it.

Vented clothes dryers.

Outside of the US, most people line dry their clothes. If they have a dryer, it is usually integrated into the washer and simply “bakes” the clothes.

But basically Americans use an enormous amount of energy per person. Outside US, people conserve energy probably for a care of environment and because energy is just so much more expensive or the infrastructure doesn’t exist. So common things like dryers and ACs simply don’t exist commonly abroad.

I don’t know why we keep pretending these people are quitting their job while they are literally on our TVs doing their jobs…

He probably couldn’t have a full time job that pays less than his TV job interfere with his schedule.