I definitely don’t think these two will have a healthy relationship and I think they need to separate ASAP. But I also feel like shekinah was being a little unfair to the baby conversation. Tell him that her ex made her raise a kid alone and that she doesn’t wanna do it again- but not giving him the opportunity to prove different. Her ex husband didn’t work out in marriage so she could say the same things about marriage but she’s not. If she doesn’t wanna have a baby that’s 100% her choice and her line to draw but I feel like using her past as an excuse is unfair to sarper. He can’t change what happened and he can’t show her the future. Deny him a baby because you don’t want your body to go through that not this “well my ex did this and that” I feel like that’s a really immature way to view things. Same with Mary’s “I’m insecure because I’ve been done wrong” I get it that it’s hard to think someone will do you right after so many failures. But to hold you current partner that you say you trust, love, and want a future with accountable for YOUR past is unfair. There’s plenty of reasons for them to not have a baby but her dwelling on that just irks me and feels very high school
Ummm she’s almost 40, and he’s mid 40s (I suspect closer to 50). They’re both too old to be having a kid. And that’s not an agism thing.
I couldn’t imagine being 50+ taking your 10 year old to school. Come on now.
And it was his own damn fault for not being involved with his first son. If he REALLY wanted kids… he wouldn’t have spent so much time fucking around.