I support Shariyah’s overall aim of evaluating Sarper’s suitability for a committed, exclusive, long-term relationship. Marriage, as Shakinah describes it.
But I feel as though she’s filling her weekend with some overly picky critiques. I mean, if you really want to focus on the DMs, and especially with this man I think that’s not a bad idea, then maybe give the collection of empty liquor bottles a pass? The one thing Shakinah is able to handle without you is complaining about Sarper’s decor.
And I think Shariyah knows that it would be a good idea to pay attention to how Sarper treats Shakinah. You don’t have to infer or project to see the deficiencies in that. He’s right there doing it. So maybe focus more on that.
I know she thinks she’s helping Shakinah by arguing with Sarper about some of these things. And I suppose if you look at Shakinah’s relationship history and her tendency to avoid conflict, that might be good, as well. But I just keep thinking it’s taking up a lot of time if they’re only spending one weekend together.* And so is walking out.
*Like the manufactured urgency in the Hoarders show when people are moving like molasses on a three-story Victorian full of stuff and somehow they only have the crew for two days.
It is such a harmless thing though. It’s his thing. His gf didn’t have an issue with it at first and I assume his 2500 girls didn’t either. Who does the sister think she is to come in and demand him to throw it away? She can give him her input of course, but he shouldn’t be harassed about it. If his significant one don’t care, why change for others? It doesn’t matter what age he is or you are imo. It’s your life lol. It’s like is there a certain age men have to stop playing video games? Watch cartoons? Collect figures?
It’s garbage. Empty liquor bottles are garbage. Not collectibles.
If he’s actually collecting these items, he wouldn’t drink them. They’re useless and worth literal trash on his shelf.
I bought my bf a bottle of Blanton’s Gold (a single barrel bourbon). He only has a bump or two on special occasions (it’s rare to come across it due to limited supply each year). In my experience, most liquor stores can’t get it and bars don’t have it (and I don’t believe the online ads saying its easily available as only a few thousand bottles are produced a year). Liquor stores in states like VA even have lotteries that patrons can enter into to buy one if it comes available.
Funny enough, the MSRP from the distillery is like $75. But it can go on the market for hundreds. I found it at a specialty bourbon shop in DC.
But when that bottle is empty in a couple of years, it’s going in the trash.
Again my point lol. Who are you to judge what’s garbage and what’s not for others? To him there is obviously some value to it, whatever it is. It’s his house. His gf did not complain as far as I remember. There are tons of things that are worth nothing yet people collect. He likes it, hurts no one. It’s not like he’s hording it to the point where his house looks like a dump either.
Garbage is garbage, and yes people collect it but just because they place value on it doesn’t make it anything less than garbage. It’s just a quirk/flaw of their own mind. As soon as they are gone, it will go into the trash unless one of their kids also developed the mental flaw of placing value on trash.
If you enjoy having something around or it means something to you, what does it matter whether it was free garbage or some $300 teapot?
When I see people collecting “valuable,” non-garbage things in the hope they will be worth more in the future, it seems pathetic and I feel kind of sorry for them. So I suppose it’s a different piece of worldview among us in this conversation that comes from an attitude toward objects that’s probably formed in childhood.
I feel like people are slightly looking too far into the situation…
My friend collects bottle caps, I don’t think this is necessarily any different - I don’t view them as worth anything, but I don’t go bash him about it and call them garage
I personally collect snow globes
From the way people like you are describing it, I thought he was collecting just like regular beer cans or something - but no, it’s actual bottles.