Yes, exactly this!! People like to take sides, and because the mom is a drug addict and quite unlikable, suddenly Mary seems better and is just “protective” over Brandan. As if all her other toxic behaviors and patterns don’t exist. Both are just not right for each other, or for anyone right now for that matter.

It’s just sad that they had to bring a child into the equation

I know someone like this, she wanted to be on call with the dude all the time so she can hear his surroundings. School, family trips etc… up until this day I don’t think she fully accepts that it was incredibly toxic on her part and focuses on his shortcomings instead. People like that usually justify it by saying they were cheated on, other traumas etc., which yes explains the extreme distrust but in no way functional in a relationship

Yes, it’s true there might be much more behind the scenes. I guess, it’s also based on what we’ve seen in the past with her wanting all his time and attention to herself only (to the point he couldn’t hold down a normal job) so that stuck to me. So I definitely associate her behavior towards the mom with that in mind.

The mom is definitely not a saint and I can see why anyone would be distrusting towards her, given her history with Brandan. However, both she and Mary should at least act amicable for the sake of Brandan and the wedding

I’ve been with someone like this before when I was a bit younger, I think they aren’t always aware that they’re being manipulative and focus on their feelings/trauma instead. I was naive back then but now it really is apparent to me how it’s such a major major red flag when they isolate you from family and friends. So I guess watching this makes me feel iffy

Mary AND Brandan are both messed up and need help. But in this matter, I do think Mary is in the wrong. She has been isolating him from his family, even from his sister who did nothing wrong. Also, if Brandan has decided to forgive and rebuild a relationship with her, I don’t see why it would hurt for Mary to try and have a cordial relationship with her? The mom’s comment was a result of Mary’s stink face she gave the moment they hugged

Yes, exactly! At least try for your future husband.

I heard the pics were old ones from her first pregnancy tho! And she’s not expecting a second child (thank God lol)