I have an almost identical experience, it’s a horrible and vile thing to go through. I’m sorry it happened to you too. (It always feels so pointless to say sorry for horrible trauma, I wish there was something better to say)

Yeah, everything points to the fact that Bojack would have gone through with it.

I agree that he didn’t groom her, despite his action still being terrible.

He definitely crossed a lot of lines with the alcohol though. They might have been drinking a bit already, but Bojack supplied them with enough alcohol for Penny’s friend to give herself alcohol poisoning, and he encouraged them to drink more. Buying alcohol is quite a common thing for groomers to do though, even if it wasn’t in this case.

Bojack was also a close family friend of her mother, who had been staying with them for a couple months which is another massive power dynamic.

Imo, the episode puts emphasis on Bojack’s inability to think of consequences and self-destructive behaviour that usually gets other people hurt too, which would be massively undercut if Penny actually felt coerced.

He fucked up big time for sure