As a child I was groomed by a man in my village and I see a lot of similarities between the way bj and my groomer acted. Do you guys think bojack intended to do something with penny for what ever reason and groomed her? ( reminds her of Charlotte at an early age/ makes it feel like he’s back in his youth?) or was it an opportunity taken impulsively?
BoJack also had a lot of power over Penny. Age, celebrity status, bigger body… we will never know if perhaps Penny felt like she couldn’t say no and went along with it. That wouldn’t be grooming. Sounds like what happened to me as a kid, which was coercion.
All in all, never felt sorry for BoJack in this plot line. He fucked up big time.
Bojack was also a close family friend of her mother, who had been staying with them for a couple months which is another massive power dynamic.
Imo, the episode puts emphasis on Bojack’s inability to think of consequences and self-destructive behaviour that usually gets other people hurt too, which would be massively undercut if Penny actually felt coerced.
He fucked up big time for sure
Ha. The family friend thing sounds like my situation and didn’t even connect those dots. I remember the first moment where I think he stood there debating if he was gonna assault me. Poor impulse control, history of extensive trauma, unchecked anger issues and substance abuse… those are all risk factors for committing acts of sexual violence. BoJack would definitely have let his impulses get the best of him if Charlotte didn’t walk in.
I have an almost identical experience, it’s a horrible and vile thing to go through. I’m sorry it happened to you too. (It always feels so pointless to say sorry for horrible trauma, I wish there was something better to say)
Yeah, everything points to the fact that Bojack would have gone through with it.