I’m so so sorry that you had to grow up with an abusive father. Nobody should have to deal with that. It is unfair and wrong and you deserved better.

But that guy is also abusive. Probably less than your dad, but still a horrible pos. There doesn’t have to be a victims Olympics. Your dad was a monster but so is Eve’s (and any father resembling him.)

It’s just shades of grey but it’s all bad.

I hope you find peace from your abuse and don’t repeat the cycle.