Sarper’s parents have never met a single one of his girlfriends, and he’s almost fifty years old, dating an alonat forty-five year old, yet they were convinced that they were getting grandchildren? What? When? How? I would’ve expected that they would have long given up on that.
Also, how is Sarper gonna go on about how responsible he intends to be when he ditched every chance he had to be a father to his first child for twenty five years?
Also also: why would you never have bright this up before, if it mattered so much to you?
His parents said it was her job to give him a kid. They’ve probably been telling him since birth how amazing he is and that the sun shines out of his ass or something. They suck.
You’re right. The dad had no emotion or anything else but to say, “that’s her job.” At least the mom said that pregnancy’s hard on a woman, and they need to figure it out. Frankly, this conversation should have been had between sharper and shekinah long ago. Sarper assumed it was a done deal that ANY woman would want his child. He’s a douche, for sure!
The worst part is that they DID have this conversation. Shekinah told him in no uncertain terms that she would not have another child.
I guess he assumed she would change her mind and is now having toddler tantrums that she isn’t.
Look AH (Sarper). If you wanted kids, then you should have settled down a long time ago. Instead of living your “bad boy player” lifestyle.
Or even better, been a father to the child you already have.
I missed that conversation. I really need to pay closer attention. Thanks for the info!
They didn’t really say that. Turkish here. They said we want grandchildren. They understood she doesn’t want kids but he wants kids so they are unsure about how well they are going to be together. They aren’t the most thoughtful throughout the conversation but they mostly point out Shekina and Sarper want different things
TLC frauding of course Thank you for the clarity
You can see where the apple fell from.
His parents have never told him how bad his behaviour is. They have created a monster.
What in god’s name are they thinking of telling a man in his mid-40s that now is the time to start a family. Or that it is a fair expectation to place on someone that they should provide them with a granchild?
If he is planning a career as Robbie Rotten in the Turkish remake of Lazy Town he might make enough to support a child, and his appearance might make sense. Otherwise, I think he and his parents should park this baby dream.
I am not letting Shenikah completely off the hook, she chose an overgrown teenager with a body count equal to that of the travelling supporters at most soccer matches, but to expect someone in their 40s to try to have a baby is just cruel, especially when she said for the outset she didn’t want one.
I think this is a cultural thing. I come from a culture that is very much still this way. As a woman it’s your duty to birth the children and maintain the home. It’s a very prideful thing when a woman has multiple children especially back to back. Even how the mom said pregnancy is hard but she should sacrifice. Using the word sacrifice is such a different take on how America views pregnancy as a step towards a family not so much a sacrifice
I agree I think this is a cultural difference. And I don’t necessarily even think using the word “sacrifice” for pregnancy is wrong, IF both people view it that way. I think if Shekinah wanted to get pregnant and have a baby for Sarper’s sake that would be fine, but she’s already said she has no intention of it. To force her (or guilt her) into getting pregnant because culturally she’s supposed to have babies is the problem.
I personally knew of a Middle Eastern family who held this view of pregnancy, and the woman kept getting pregnant back to back. Sadly her body couldn’t sustain the pregnancies and she had continual miscarriages, and several babies that were born but were premature and died after birth. They had one son that survived and after her 16th pregnancy doctors told her it would be impossible for her body to sustain any more pregnancies. It was suggested that her husband have a vasectomy, but that was never even entertained in their culture, or her having her tubes tied or hysterectomy either.
Shortly after she got pregnant again against everyone’s wishes, including hers, but she did it because culturally she was "supposed " to "sacrifice " to give her husband children. And she died during a miscarriage later in the pregnancy, but the main thing her family said was that at least she died doing the most honorable thing a woman can do which is be pregnant and have children. I can’t help but wonder if Sarper’s parents would feel the same way.
They probably would that’s very much how my culture is. Even if you can barely afford the kids. And a miscarriage isn’t a medical thing it’s “not having enough faith” or you doing something wrong. I’m glad the world is getting more educated on how much of a toll pregnancy really does and can take on a persons body. I had HG during my pregnancies and it was terrible. Loosing more than 30% of my body weight and constantly stressing about my health and the babies health. I had never even heard of it until I had it. There’s really not much education about it all. A lot of the education is based on “don’t get pregnant until you’re married” and then “hurry and get pregnant”
In Turkish culture starting a family at the age of 40+ is not the norm for sure
I wanted to puke when they said “we want grandchildren.” It ain’t up to you, bitch.
Lady, you already HAVE at least one grandchild, if not several grandchildren.