So I’m watching the episode where Jasmine is saying how insecure she feels about herself, and how she doesn’t view herself the way Gino does.
It absolutely floors me that she doesn’t know how gorgeous she looked pre cosmetic procedures. It got me thinking about my daughter’s who are so beautiful and don’t see what I see, and even myself until recently.
Gino did an amazing job of reassuring her, but I just think it’s so sad. Our society just damages women so much. In so many ways.
Jasmine is beautiful, and I hope she realizes it before she gets some botched procedure, or just ends up looking cartoonish.
Even if she was a troll, wasting $$ on cosmetic procedures never seems to fulfill these individuals. They need to learn to love themselves. It sounds cliche, but it’s so true.
Once you love yourself unconditionally, everything else kind of falls into place.
I think once you start the slippery slope of “maybe I can fix this one thing…” it becomes harder and harder to stop at just one thing because there’s always another minor imperfection to fix. And before you know it, you’re at Darcy status because you don’t have stable enough self esteem to know when to stop.
I think that’s unique to Jasmine. I don’t know why she’s like that, except that she mentioned that her husband cheated on her.
Cheated her and left her with nothing in the divorce
I think she definitely has some sort of mood or personality disorder. Maybe borderline? They way her emotions are there is something clearly wrong. I hope she gets help.
I thought it was just bad acting!! 🎬
She almost definitely has bpd- I have it as well. Sadly there is no treatment for it, but it does look like she actually tries really hard to contain it. She does better than I do at it
I think it’s just not true? I don’t want to get too far down in this, but I think she always thought she was beautiful/hot but considers this plastic surgery as some form of showing off or something? I don’t really get it.
I have a friend that says she’s so insecure all the time, but really she’s just fishing for compliments. She does the posts on insta that are selfies and a caption that are like “I look like shit today 🤪🫣” and then gets TONS of comments saying she is SO beautiful. It drives me up the wall.
People who seek so much external validation are not happy, confident people. Women are constantly being told that their only value is in their appearance so the only way to know if you have value is through external validation. This is not a healthy way to live and trying to gauge your worth based on likes and comments is incredibly damaging.
Gino tells her she’s beautiful all the time but I don’t think he understands how to cater to her insecurities
I think he does exactly what he did: continues to reassure her that she’s beautiful until she can finally see it for herself.
He can voice it for her for the time being, and just never let her forget it.
A woman feeling beautiful can also be tied into how sexually desirous her significant other finds her. Jasmine’s been saying for some time now how Gino doesn’t seem interested in her, so I guess I do believe that it is hard for her & makes her feel less attractive when he isn’t intimate with her.
If she’s already self conscious & then he doesn’t want to get physical, that’d be hard.
I think we can’t talk out of both sides of our mouths on this one. We can’t say that we hope they see how beautiful they are BEFORE the surgery then criticize their looks after surgery. All of the posts on this sub about women (Darcy/Stacy especially) getting plastic surgery and using filters etc. doesn’t help change society’s conversation about women’s beauty. We really need to chill on commenting their looks.
Exactly
https://www.parents.com/gen-z-wants-to-be-social-media-influencers-8349212
New data from Morning Consult shows the career may continue to grow. According to the report, 57% of people in Gen-Z (people born between 1997 and 2012) say they’d be an influencer if the opportunity presented itself. That number is virtually the same as in 2019 (57%).1
Gen Zers Still Really Want to Be Influencers. Morning Consult. October 4. 2023.
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Obligatory, I’m not a therapist by profession although I fancy myself an ace at amateur psychiatry lol. Anyway, at first I thought Jasmine was just a super troll. However, upon watching her for some time, and not just what production has to editorialize for us but Jasmine’s socials as well… I’ve come to the conclusion Jasmine has body dysmorphia. It’s serious and it’s real
That’s what I’ve started thinking as well.
It absolutely is, and it can destroy a person’s life.
She knows. She’s manipulating him to get what she wants with no repercussions.
I see a lot of people in the post making the same mistakes. Insecurity about looks can come from many places, but a lot of times, insecurities about looks can absolutely come from people telling them that they are beautiful growing up, so much so that they’ve attached their self-worth to their beauty. This is also why you see a lot of very pretty girls with obsession to plastic surgeries, because they’ve been told that they are beautiful growing up as their core identity. Now I’m not saying you shouldn’t tell your sons and daughters that they are beautiful, but compliments have to be meaningful in a way that rewards something they did instead of something innate, such as hard working, loyal, honesty…etc.
I think what she’s feeling about herself being not beautiful is real. It affects tons of people, even the ones who seem the most confident.
It is really sad, I definitely have parts of myself I don’t find beautiful and imagine changing. Society is getting much better about it but humans themselves are vicious sometimes.
I think she’s bullshitting Gino and changing the subject to gain sympathy because he’s upset she took the $4,000 he sent for the wedding dress and spent it on cosmetic surgery. I don’t buy that she only does these things to look good for him. She has an OF. Her looks are her source of income.
This is the first time anyone has complimented Gino for doing an amazing job at… Anything.
She’s a master manipulator. She doesn’t actually feel that way. She’s playing a long game and this is one of her many moves. Don’t fall for it.
Maybe stop referring to women as “damaged”…
So just guys then?
Also what if it’s an accurate description? Should we just not say it because it’s women. Those delicate flowers. Equality isn’t all equal pay and access. You got to take the rough with the smooth. Which means goodbye to chivalry
These sound like Incel talking points. Do you resent women for some reason?
Swing and miss there. My Dd was deep sea merchant navy. Away for six months at a time then home then home for three. I was basically raisers by two women don’t you think I learned a thing or two about how to treat and relate to woman in that setting?
As to your resenting woman comment. Although I hardly feel necessary to give it more air than it has had. That is a real go to for all you Reddit Uni graduates in psychiatry. If not that, I expect narcissist will be trotted out in due course.
Simply understand a few psychiatric terms doesn’t mean you’re qualified to analyse people. Dither still wth opinions like those if suggest never giving advice again. Such was its terribleness.