The speech bojack gives to PC in the finale at her wedding. Made me less regretful of choices I’ve made in the past, and less afraid of making decisions now.

Diane and PC having a heart to heart about how Diane was trying to make her trauma into something “productive”. To hear that trauma can be repackaged into something positive and seemingly unrelated that still accomplishes the goal of validating others in your previous situation and helping them feel less alone was so…healing

I don’t think I’ve ever felt as seen by a show as I do by Bojack. There’s probably a handful of moments every season that changed me.

If I had to pick one though, it’s Diane’s heartbreaking speech about good damage.

I have a lot of personality traits similar to Princess Carolyn, and a friend who has some similarities to BoJack (mainly his relationships with people—not the worst of him). The episode with the food critic really got to me on the latest rewatch because their discussion of what they valued in each other was a discussion I wish I could have had with this friend who basically ghosted me. He and I haven’t had that conversation, but I pretended we did. Now, the final episode where PC shows that she’s able to basically let him go has been a bit of an inspiration to me for how to move forward as the ghosting continues.

“It takes a long time to realise how truly miserable you are , even longer to realise it doesn’t have to be that way “

It hit me hard the first time I saw it when the show aired , but re watching recently it influenced me to call out someone who has been making me miserable for a long time now . I can’t say the situation was ideal , but I feel so much lighter knowing it’s one less misery in my life

Secretariat’s poem about The View From Halfway Down.

That really woke me up to the horrifying realization that I was afraid to die. I’m glad I got secretariat’s warning and didn’t realize it when I was halfway down.

Not quite changing me as a person, but changing my perspective. Diane’s talk with Mr. Peanutbutter (“I’m so tired of squinting”) really resonated with me. I was in a toxic, abusive marriage when I first watched that episode, and there were times when their relationship reminded me of my own. That scene in the library pointed me in the direction of realizing that I wasn’t getting the kind of love I needed. Happily divorced now, but that monologue hits me in the gut every time.

“I’m poison, I have poison inside me, and I destroy everything I touch. Nobody in my life is better off for having known me.”

And in a later episode (I can’t remember the exact quote) he says something along the lines of “hearing someone else say that made me realise how stupid it really is”

Made me realise im not ‘doomed’ to be anything, even though it feels like that nobodys path is set in stone

Diane and Bojack’s final conversation.

“I think there are people that help you become the person you end up being. And you can be grateful for them, even if they were never meant to be in your life forever.”

Honestly tho there’s a ton of moments from the show. It’s hard to pick just one. I have “It gets easier” tattooed on my arm.

Yeah, the story Ana told BoJack when he visited her during his bender cured me from my savior syndrome. I’m not a ‘I can fix her/him’ person anymore.

Bits from Free Churro have been running through my head recently

My mother is dead, and everything is worse now.

All I had was you.

Diane getting the help she needed, finding Guy after a terrible relationship and gaining weight.

Aside from the weight gain adding a very realistic touch, it gave me hope that I could escape my relationship with a narcissist and start fresh.

Also her friends not mentioning about the difference in her new look. I have gained a lot of weight because of depression and anxiety and a lot of people has called me and teased me for getting fat but never my FRIENDS. They know it won’t help so they don’t mention it.

The one where it takes a long time to figure out how miserable you are, and even longer to figure out that it doesn’t have to be that way. This helped me end my marriage.

the entire stupid piece of shit episode becuz i hadn’t seen my personal experience of the depression inner monologue in a show before.

But also the entire times arrow episode(as many others have said) I spent the series till that point hating his mom for obvious reasons even tho you know something fucked happened to her. But then it forces you to face the generational trauma inflicted on her in such a visceral way and it just recontextualizes the whole thing. And like bojack I wanted to irredeemably hate her but from then on you can’t stop thinking about that little girl, who just wanted love, just wanted her mom, brother and dolly. It forced me to reckon with the generational trauma of my own life and fully acknowledge how the horrors of being orphaned in war led my dad to treat me the way he did—even if that wasn’t okay. He was impoverished in Africa sent from house to house and he too grew into a hardened and cruel man. But considering him an irredeemable monster was just a coping mechanism that took the easy way out. At the end of the day we’re all human, searching for something missing. After realizing this I was able to make more room for healing between us

You do the hokey pokey and you TURN YOURSELF AROUND