They said early on in this season that she lived in India for a year before deciding to move there permanently to be with TJ. Did people not see where she said that the things she chose for the apartment construction were not what she picked out before she left? Why is everyone saying she should have researched the culture? I’m pretty sure living there for a year can equal to doing some research on the internet.

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    His culture for his families values according to other subs from Indian sources. I have said that TJ’s culture was very backwards and it was also said that there was no way she would’ve known unless he would’ve told her directly cause they don’t practice like most modern Indian families to that extreme, he also said at the beginning of the show that he’s not telling her the truth because she would not have married him.

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      Yeah- idk what you’d be googling or reading about that would prepare you for living with someone who A.) lied or at the very least withheld important information and B.) doesn’t follow the average cultural “norm” even if you know it’s one of the most conservative regions of an extremely diverse country.

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      Yes‼️. I never understood the hate everyone has for her. None of us are perfect. It was unacceptable the way he lied to her

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      And they’re also not giving her any room for her own traditions and culture. The wedding had to be 100% what they wanted. The household has to be exactly what they want. Imagine if an American did that to a foreign spouse who immigrated to the US?

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        I’m certain it would not go over well. Some insist their culture should be accepted worldwide and everyone should honor it. There should be a compromise if couples want to stay together. I also say this to Americans. You can’t go to a country and turn their family into chaos cause they don’t like an onion.

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        this was a point of contention I had with my husband for a while! I respect his family and his culture, but I need my cultural norms to be respected as well, there has tk be a balance regardless of where you are living.

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          Exactly. Partners need to agree on how they want things to be. Parents, families can be difficult. Too bad. They have to deal with the wishes of the couple.

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        I feel like there was an example of that, but I have NO idea whom.

        Oooh maybe it was teen Evelyn? She kept saying that they were getting married in America so they had to do it the American way

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      What’s weird about it? The adult sons sleep in bed with their mother and the dad sleeps on the floor in the living room over a disagreement that no one has ever discussed. Seems chill to me. 🤣

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        I’m a first generation Indian born here in America. Even I would have noped out of TJs family’s house too lol.

        One of the many reasons I told my parents a long time ago that I’d never get an arranged marriage like they did.

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            I recently watched Love Without Borders (was on aired on Bravo, but you can watch the whole season on Peacock).

            If you’ve never heard of it, it’s basically like 90 Day Fiancé: The Other Way Around, except they don’t know which country they are going to and they don’t know who they’re matched with.

            There’s a Punjabi girl that was born and raised in America that gets matched with someone. She’s the only one out of all the couples whose parents don’t participate in the show. According to her, she was very clearly told that she would bring shame to the family by participating in the show.

            THAT’S a normal Indian family lol. That’s exactly what my parents would tell me. You don’t think I get urges to apply for Love Island?? My parents would kill me lol.

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              The Punjabi girl was over the top. I loved the couple in Ireland. Was there ever a tell all or reunion? Now I need to go back and watch again

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        That is what I find so annoying about Kim. She did live with the family and saw how they were, she knew there were times TJ lied to her, but instead of getting the fuck out of there, she he insisted TJ’s family should conform to her. That just struck me as so unreasonable of her.

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        I wouldn’t accept their lifestyle either, but she knows them - she had countless opportunities to leave. Her fiance left her before the wedding and she begged him to take her back…

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          But he wasn’t up front of being a wife. Had she known they clean with poop and urine, she may not have pursued a relationship with him.

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            It’s not a family secret - it’s something they do (probably did it on purpose to shock her).

            Jenny also reacted badly when Sumit let a cow into the house. Who can list to her all the customs in the country - they are thousands. And this applies to every single country. There is no manual.

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        48 hours? That’s generous. After they started burning the cow poo in the kitchen and cleaned the drops of cow poo off the table with the same cloth she wiped the pan, i would have run out so fast… i was sooooo grossed out