They said early on in this season that she lived in India for a year before deciding to move there permanently to be with TJ. Did people not see where she said that the things she chose for the apartment construction were not what she picked out before she left? Why is everyone saying she should have researched the culture? I’m pretty sure living there for a year can equal to doing some research on the internet.

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    My newly immigrated Indian husband watches some of the stuff they do and is horrified. He’s progressive, a feminist, we are equals, we don’t clean with cow poop, etc.

    There is 1.4 billion people in India and hundreds of thousands of “cultures”. No way would she have prepared for this.

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      Also the different castes have different ways of approaching things. My ex’s family and TJ’s were both Brahmin, so they will likely take their religious customs more seriously. My ex’s family used to drink cows urine when they were sick! Even though they were educated and middle-class. My ex was raised with a strict vegetarian diet, no eggs only dairy. They also expected their women to be more subservient, his sister was forced to drop out of her medical degree to marry her first cousin when she was 19. Meanwhile my ex was free to choose when to marry. But my friends who aren’t from the same caste are typically more laid back. One of them even eats beef! And his family were only veggie for the 24 hours before going into a temple. Others I know are also more laid back towards meat and fish. So I think it’s possible with TJ being Brahmin, they may hold onto their religious customs more tightly, it’s possible they have priests in the family. That being said, I think a lot of it is played up for TV like a lot of other things on this show

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        I feel like that’s true for families that follow the caste system which is an outdated and antiquated practice. My husbands family is semi-traditional but don’t follow any caste related practice.

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      Exactly people on on Reddit love say so and so should have researched. Researched what when your fiance actively hid the truth. These are the same people that keep saying Brandon needs to learn Tagalog.

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        Exactly people on on Reddit love say so and so should have researched

        No amount of research can prepare you for real life…but since most “people on Reddit” don’t have any real life friends/social interactions or even go outside they will NEVER understand that.

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          You are on Reddit. So, you have no real life, friends/social interactions and don’t go outside? You said it.

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      Seriously even in Jenny and Summits journey we saw totally different customs. They didn’t burn cow poop like incense but remember when he brought the cow into the house to bless it.

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      Except she did catch TJ in lies before the wedding, and she did live in the house with the family before the wedding and saw how they were, and experienced how they treated her. Who would put up with that if they had all the freedom in the world to leave?