First of all, she first said that she would be supportive of his financial situation and said she was empathetic of his setbacks. She even said it was frustrating when Wayne keeps everything inside. And then, the second he lets her in and tells her that he made a mistake (he admitted it was stupid) by investing $2000 USD into crypto, she gets disproportionately angry about it and storms off, telling him that he doesn’t understand the severity of this.

All that did was ensure that Wayne keeps everything inside going forward and never shares anything with her again.

  • AkamiMaguro@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    Signs of gold digging

    1. Marries someone with a successful plumbing business
    2. Immediately wants to buy a new house (presumably get herself as co-owner)
    3. “I gave up everything!” (She was a barber)
    4. Wants Wayne to sell everything and move to US and presumably to get a property there so she can get on the title
    5. Wants to provide her insights into Wayne’s financials with her vast experience as a barber
    6. Loses interest in the country the moment she realised Wayne is not making big money
    7. Makes a big deal of spending $5000 to buy an air ticket and wedding gown, then didn’t blink twice when she wants Wayne to drop $400k on a house.
    8. Throws a fit when Wayne spent HIS money on crypto instead of a honeymoon.
    9. Justifying all her absurd demands with “not feeling safe”
    • Ecstatic_Pack_975@alien.topBEnglish
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      10 months ago

      I don’t find this entirely accurate. She wanted to be somewhere safer (respectively). She is alone at the house all the time because he’s working overtime (he stupidly put a lot of money into crypto) and she’s there all by herself, half of the time in the dark. She doesn’t feel safe. She feels alone. She just wants to be somewhere where she is familiar. She doesn’t seem to ask for materialistic things. He’d be home more if he didn’t throw away all that money. She’s bored, she has no friends or family there, she can’t even take a stroll outside because it’s too dangerous. How does everyone really expect one person to be in the situation?!?!

      • bestbudsoreosandmilk@alien.topBEnglish
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        10 months ago

        You’ve put it in a great context. I think this sub forgets that she’s literally alone, in a new country, without support, and in a physical location that is horribly unsafe and looks to be a suburb so public transport may not be an option. Robbers killed their dog ffs. I also don’t get why this sub likes to forget that going the other way ALSO provides visa restrictions as coming to the US. She can’t work or open a bank account to provide to the joint funds which she, to me, clearly wants to do. (I’m too lazy to look up visa requirements into the SA but for other countries I’ve looked at, it typically is around the same coming to the US in regards to work visas and social benefits.)

        • adviceicebaby@alien.topBEnglish
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          10 months ago

          That is true I hadn’t considered the visa part yet.

          Still, I think given that what she DID know about SA, his house, and maybe just barely beforehand but beforehand none the less, financial issues, before they got married makes her more responsible. And he did tell her everything it just would never have mattered because she always kept this blank look on her face and focused on whatever part of those conversations she wanted to hear.

          And it’s entirely possible she did have a change of heart and of course that doesn’t make her bad but again; she knew as much as anyone can going into a similar situation so she wasn’t blindsided. There was enough there to make an informed sound decision. The problem is she can’t make those decisions because she’s hung up on fairy tales and she has unrealistic expectations that will only set her up for disappointment . She expects happily ever after and is disappointed when life shows her that’s not possible it doesn’t exist. So it’s all how she chooses to accept that or not and make the best of it or not, or pack up her dybbuk box and her tarot cards and her tail, roll her hair up in a zip tie and hop a red eye back to Utah.