As a child I was groomed by a man in my village and I see a lot of similarities between the way bj and my groomer acted. Do you guys think bojack intended to do something with penny for what ever reason and groomed her? ( reminds her of Charlotte at an early age/ makes it feel like he’s back in his youth?) or was it an opportunity taken impulsively?

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      10 months ago

      Yes. Because grooming is intentional. It doesn’t happen by accident. Doing nice things for someone isn’t grooming unless you have the intent to start a sexual relationship or abuse someone. A lot of people throwing the word around takes away from the actual meaning.

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        10 months ago

        Buying alcohol for minors doesn’t sound like a nice thing to me? That and al the compliments and secrets coming from someone who WAS groomed screams that bojack didn’t have good intentions

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          10 months ago

          Buying alcohol is not grooming behavior, and her friends were already drinking. Grooming is intentional. His intentions were not with Penny. We can make the case that he was grooming Charlotte. But Penny was not groomed. I underwd you want to see that because of your experience being groomed. As another person who was groomed, bojacks actions may not be good. It doesn’t make him a groomer.

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            10 months ago

            I agree that he didn’t groom her, despite his action still being terrible.

            He definitely crossed a lot of lines with the alcohol though. They might have been drinking a bit already, but Bojack supplied them with enough alcohol for Penny’s friend to give herself alcohol poisoning, and he encouraged them to drink more. Buying alcohol is quite a common thing for groomers to do though, even if it wasn’t in this case.