I think people, even married people, are entitled to privacy. Outright lying to your partner is bad but not sharing aspects of your life that don’t involve them……how many family members are in the US, sexuality as long as you’re still attracted to them, ovarian cyst surgeries if they were pre relationship and don’t have ongoing health consequences……. I think not sharing things like that are allowed. You don’t become one person when you get married, you become two halves of a whole.

But hiding that you are trans is huge and unacceptable. That doesn’t just impact you in a relationship, that impacts future ability to have kids which means it is of vital importance all partners are on board.

You’re wrong.

Keep in mind she grew up Mormon which lends towards very strict rules surrounding sex and “intimate” interactions with the opposite sex. I wouldn’t be surprised if her definition of “cheating” is a lot broader than many people’s would be. That doesn’t mean it’s right or wrong if Asuelu knew and agreed to those boundaries.

For instance, I don’t really care if my husband opts to sleep with someone else, I don’t want to know and I trust him to make good, safe choices. But if he snoops through my phone, that’s grounds for serious divorce talks. I firmly believe everyone is entitled to privacy and even with nothing to hide (I’m boring AF!), I would be absolutely crushed to know he violated that.