I can’t tell if the producers are just picking couples that have major secrets for the drama. But I can’t imagine being in a long-distance relationship in which all you can do is talk on the phone — and yet when you start the 90 days you are only just finding out major life details about your partner??

  • Gino didn’t tell Jasmine about quitting
  • Jasmine lied about the butt implants
  • Nikki only admitted she was trans during a fight
  • Sophie hadn’t told Rob about her ovary cyst surgery
  • Ashley didn’t tell her fiancé she was a witch
  • Her partner (sorry forgot his name but would never forget Rico MFing Suave) lied to his family about where he was

There might be more as I’m only a few episodes in. It’s just odd to me because I could never keep major life events like that to myself in a relationship. Is that just more normal than I realise??

  • DogDisguisedAsPeople@alien.topBEnglish
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    10 months ago

    I think people, even married people, are entitled to privacy. Outright lying to your partner is bad but not sharing aspects of your life that don’t involve them……how many family members are in the US, sexuality as long as you’re still attracted to them, ovarian cyst surgeries if they were pre relationship and don’t have ongoing health consequences……. I think not sharing things like that are allowed. You don’t become one person when you get married, you become two halves of a whole.

    But hiding that you are trans is huge and unacceptable. That doesn’t just impact you in a relationship, that impacts future ability to have kids which means it is of vital importance all partners are on board.

    • BreaRoePhilly@alien.topBEnglish
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      10 months ago

      One’s privacy is huge. However, when something that may impact your significant other’s choice is compromised, you better believe it’s a problem. Some may not want to be married to someone who’s bi or at least wants to be in the know and not possibly one day be gob smacked by it. Also I can’t see someone never telling their partner a year or 2 after they’ve married when the other says. “babe, I want to have a baby” and they say, oh “I had a vasectomy years ago or I had surgery that may prevent me from ever having children. I’m sorry I didn’t tell you.” And expect them not to be hurt or upset by this. Possibly even feel betrayed. Even if they love you enough to forgive you for it, that initial reaction is not going to be a good one. And they may feel a trust has been broken.