He is 100% abusive. Sure he wants here there, so do most abusers. He expects her to cater to his needs, he belittles and invalidates her emotional experiences, he treats her like an object and has a clear attitude of authority around her, he lies and keeps her in the dark, and he gaslights her when she asks questions or figures things out. She is constantly invalidated, has no authority and is treated inferior, and she is being lied to and manipulated by her partner. This makes her feel crazy and overhelmed, and she screams. So what. She should be screaming and she needs to leave. Women in male dominated culture being treated like slaves with no rights of their own got slapped with the ‘female hysteria’ label for years.

Agreed, that comment was aggressive and obviously had the undertone of ‘we think you are using Gino for money’. The rest of the time I agree she is jumping to crazy conclusions.

I choose suicide