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Cake day: October 16th, 2023

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  • I said the LIFESTYLE is rich. If you compare it to living other places where you’re dragging your water or the living room us filled w plastic chairs, the basics we have here seem like a big improvement. And immigrants coming here have always lived in less desirable locations, have always had a lot of people living together. It doesn’t matter if it’s 1920 or 2023. You come here with nothing, keep expenses down, and try to move ahead. That had never changed. The difference with 90 day is that you are marrying a second, third, fifth generation American who may understand why you send money home but isn’t willing to pay for all your needs while you work to pay for a family back home.


  • Sure but Gino was working and also not remodeling / upscaling his house. If Jasmine wanted her expensive hair extensions, plus replacing everything in their house, and continuing her lifestyle, he wouldn’t have the 3000 for her rent. Danielle was living off her savings, which is why she wanted him to work. She’s screwed in general I think.



  • You are correct because you have the means to do so. But even with your means, I’m sure you would have a cutoff point as well before it impacts you personally. In the grand scheme of things, if 300.00 is one of his paychecks, no big deal. But if that’s all he earns monthly, or ups his money home to 1200.00 a month for ALL his paychecks, that still leaves her paying for two people forever.


  • Sending money " home" is fine as long as your own life isn’t adversely impacted. Yes, the money goes far elsewhere. The problem is when people from poorer countries see American lifestyles, they equate it with being “rich” so you can afford anything. We here people like Gino say " America is expensive " but there is no actual discussion of dollars vs cost, so saying " I make x a week" sounds great to someone making way, way less. Unfortunately, they don’t explain that you need 3 of your x amounts to pay rent. My grandma came from Poland around 1920. When her kids grew up, they sent clothes and money to the old country. Then, the Polish relatives became like Lydia. They wanted TVs, lol. That was the end of helping them. My nephew is from Ukraine. When he started working at 17, he sent a little money back. As he got older, he paid for his niece and nephew to learn English to have better futures rather than just sending some money. Sending money to your mama is one thing. But you can’t be a full partner here and send your check for the whole family back home without it affecting at least some of your relationship.



  • I don’t have any sympathy for her at all. And as far as everyone jumping on him for being a mama’s boy, they are a few steps away from the family. I don’t know about anyone else, but in my family if someone heard my spouse calling me dick or titty- baby, I’d be getting a lecture about being treated that way and so would the spouse. Kimberly has a vile nasty mouth when she’s angry, just look at calling Jenny a C. That’s not how normal people argue. Kimberly is a mental case and total trash.











  • Well, thankfully, she has her big-time wrestling career now that her high-end modeling days are over, lol. I think the issue w Russ’ jobs were that it sounded like contracts. So he’d fly off and live where he worked, possibly with employer housing. Once he got married, that was harder bc she wanted the glam life, and his industry required you to be where the action is. Similar, I think to Jovi, who has to be gone a few weeks at a time, although I think Russ’ job was more oil-related.