I completely relate to you and feel the exact same way, except I am not in a relationship and believe that reading so much and being such a hopeless romantic and adventure-loving person has actually prevented me from getting into a relationship because I have such high expectations.

Something that has really helped me so far has actually been to check myself often when dating. Like yea, this man is no Rhysand or Damen/Laurent or Draco from DMATMOOBIL, but it’s not like I’m completely selfless like Feyre or a world-renowned genius/smartest witch of my age like Hermione. I’m also just a normal gal trying my best day to day to show the people around me that I love and care for them. And that’s all I can expect from my SO too! Hope this helps or offers a different perspective than “oh just stop reading lmao” like??

Book 3 onwards just made me feel so desolate, but honestly it was worth it when I read The Drowning Faith afterwards and everything hurt so good

I ADORE Laurent from Captive Prince. Magnificently cunning, facetious, adaptable, he maneuvers royal politics in a way only a grieving boy thrust too soon into adulthood could. He is outwardly vicious, but inwardly sweet and thoughtful and can put aside his pride for his people and to do what is right.