I can’t tell if the producers are just picking couples that have major secrets for the drama. But I can’t imagine being in a long-distance relationship in which all you can do is talk on the phone — and yet when you start the 90 days you are only just finding out major life details about your partner??
- Gino didn’t tell Jasmine about quitting
- Jasmine lied about the butt implants
- Nikki only admitted she was trans during a fight
- Sophie hadn’t told Rob about her ovary cyst surgery
- Ashley didn’t tell her fiancé she was a witch
- Her partner (sorry forgot his name but would never forget Rico MFing Suave) lied to his family about where he was
There might be more as I’m only a few episodes in. It’s just odd to me because I could never keep major life events like that to myself in a relationship. Is that just more normal than I realise??
Not necessarily related - but when Shekinah has made it clear to Sarper that she does not want any more children, and he’s like “I will continue trying to persuade her” 🤣 it’s mind boggling how couples try sooo hard to make the relationship work when clearly your life values/desires do not match.
I feel like being far away from each other allows them to be pretty delusional and ignore red flags. Same stuff happens on catfish.
I remember listening to a previous person that was on 90 Day, saying that the producers would put them in situations that would purposely cause conflict between the two. I imagine there’s a lot of that going on, which causes the drama you see. I think she said the drama is technically real too (vs completely fabricated).
I believe someone posted TLC’s questionnaire for couples who want to be on the show and one of the questions was “do you have any secrets you haven’t told your partner?”
Some of this, particularly anything with Jasmine and Gino, is producer driven drama. Producers aren’t looking for healthy couples, they are looking for drama. And drama means dysfunction so the show is heavy on couples who can’t and don’t communicate well. Interestingly so far this season none of the communication problems stem from lack of a common language, which has been a common feature of previous seasons.
I gotta start lying to women … That’s why I’m single. Too honest 😔
I wonder this ALL THE TIME! I recently got divorced and started dating for the first time in many years. And I tell them the deal breakers from the beginning. I do have a boyfriend now and I can’t have anymore kids, and I don’t want to get married again. So, I told him that up front as well as we have discussed it multiple times since. I remind him, “Make SURE you don’t want a child if you want to be with me.” Lol I think a lot of the people on the show are not very emotionally mature or intelligent if I’m honest. They’re “in LOVE” with this person they really hardly know! It’s insane. But, that’s why we watch. Isn’t it? 😂
I’m in my early 30s and I have been doing this for years. If we aren’t on the same page, there’s no reason to continue.
Didn’t Sophie tell Rob that she had the surgery? Maybe I heard wrong. But, if I didn’t want kids, that would definitely be something I’d discuss with my fiancé before flying to the states.
And she definitely should have. Truth of the matter is, if she kept it from him there’s a reason why she felt she had to, the same with her being bi-sexual. She thinks it’s a chance he may want nothing to do with her if she forthcoming about certain things. Honestly, he’d be doing her a favor.
I think she’s just a child. I had to have surgery for a type of reproductive cancer like 6months into my relationship with my now husband and he not only stuck it out through the 4 months of bleeding and recovery but he still married me.
Homegirl just gotta be honest about it. If a guy acts like an idiot over it he doesn’t deserve you
Scripted tv drama.
Like when maury would test dude number 16 for girl thats on the show for the 5th time and dude would still not be the father. Cats collaborating for a free hotel stay. What would some people agree to do if they actually got paid per episode?
In reality - lots of times in online or long distance relationships, the couples may not actually know each other that well and since there is no in person, have a long honeymoon period. Probably worried about saying shit that might make they other person stop responding.
And its hard to fight with someone you dont even ever see and if you do its probably some dumb shit like the instances of jealousy or insecurity they depict on the show. Long time ago i met a girl at a club and we ended up dating for a bit. She got upset with me going out to clubs/bars because we had met at a club and got together. I imagine there are some folks out there that feel similarly about being online
Icky Ricky, say no more.
Adds to the drama … I’d guess these “lies” are made up by producers to cause drama and fighting that is more tv worthy… the cringeworthy sells!!! That’s why we can’t get rid of Angela 🤬🤣
All manufactured bs
My favorite is that Sumit never told Jenny he is not in fact a male model named Michael Jones.
Orrrrr that he got married during their relationship.
Other than Ashley being a witch, I think it’s easy to conceal everything else because it doesn’t just “come up”
It is on this “TV show”.
I think people, even married people, are entitled to privacy. Outright lying to your partner is bad but not sharing aspects of your life that don’t involve them……how many family members are in the US, sexuality as long as you’re still attracted to them, ovarian cyst surgeries if they were pre relationship and don’t have ongoing health consequences……. I think not sharing things like that are allowed. You don’t become one person when you get married, you become two halves of a whole.
But hiding that you are trans is huge and unacceptable. That doesn’t just impact you in a relationship, that impacts future ability to have kids which means it is of vital importance all partners are on board.
One’s privacy is huge. However, when something that may impact your significant other’s choice is compromised, you better believe it’s a problem. Some may not want to be married to someone who’s bi or at least wants to be in the know and not possibly one day be gob smacked by it. Also I can’t see someone never telling their partner a year or 2 after they’ve married when the other says. “babe, I want to have a baby” and they say, oh “I had a vasectomy years ago or I had surgery that may prevent me from ever having children. I’m sorry I didn’t tell you.” And expect them not to be hurt or upset by this. Possibly even feel betrayed. Even if they love you enough to forgive you for it, that initial reaction is not going to be a good one. And they may feel a trust has been broken.