“I only slept with you before him. You realize, right? So yes, it’s a big deal for me to sleep with somebody else who’s not my husband, so I had to keep a connection with him.” Make it make sense. That’s her rationale??? And we call (rightfully) Aseulo a bit dense?
They’re both trapped in a mental adolescence
I grew up Mormon and made excuses for years for my first “boyfriend” that assaulted, raped, me and even would park up the street from my house to see me come home and ram his car into mine. Right outside my parents bedroom window, and he’d make insurance claims on my parents insurance. It took a lot for me to be on my own at 17, and my parents were still supporting this guy even now. I moved out. In my apartment he’d climb through the window or hide in the bushes, every day. my friends would follow me home from work and I’d alert my room mate that I’m on my way. He’d call my job and threaten me, police officers have heard first hand his threats to slash my tires then I leave work and of course my tires are slashed. Yet never has it been enough evidence. By now, I have two kids with this rapist. He pays $30 a month total in child support and continually takes me to court. Obviously costing me far more then the sporadic $30 he pays in total for 2 kids. The bailiffs thankfully usually recognize the situation and walk me out and keep him away. But it’s more than 20 years of my life that this abusive person has impacted to the point not me and more important the kids can’t live freely and certainly have not felt safe. I contribute this to me being raised Mormon and initially when I met him, it seemed normal. This is easy going compared to many of my friends experiences. Obviously I try to get custody and press charges, but 21 years later it’s still only resulting in costing me money and he disappears. Which I’ll pay that money happily if it means he’s not around to break through my window anymore. I happily work for far less then I should as my job has security everywhere and no car passes without approval. When my kids and I feel unsafe we can at least sleep in the car in my work parking lot. Kalani is going through some shit, and isn’t innocent. But y’all show your ignorance being so hard on her. She’s doing an amazing job considering she grew up Mormon (as did I) and Samoan. I know many people and have many family members that are Samoan, or Tongan such beautiful and amazing traditions and culture to keep alive. It also comes with some darkness such as asuelos mom not caring about the kids but wanting money to give to her church. I don’t know for sure the church Asealos mom goes to. But I know growing up lds we often watched a video of missionaries going to an island and paying 8 cows for a wife. 8 cows was a lot. Then they converted the whole island. There’s a byu hawaii. All sense says this is likely Samoa or tonga most likely both. It’s a whole beautiful culture corrupted by a fucking cult.
THIS!!! Thank you for sharing your story, I’m so sorry you and your children have been going through this for so long. Kehlani has clearly kept a lot of the abuse she’s suffered quiet (which I COMPLETELY understand, it’s her story and she doesn’t need to share the details for it to be valid) and I wish more people had sympathy for what I’m sure has been a nightmare for this woman. Like you said, she’s not perfect, but the trauma of the church, Asuelu, Asuelu’s family, and raising children in that environment? That’s a lot.
This guy won the fucking internet. 10000000000%.
Thank you. Fact remains she dialed adick during marriage boot camp. While I find it hilarious, it’s also kinda wrong.
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He did it over and over during the marriage, during her pregnancies, until she finally had enough. How is he getting a pass and Kalani the asshole here?
He actually didn’t. He was doing some things online sort of thing, not anything in real life. Not excusing him, but he did not have any physical affairs per Kalani since he came to the US. And what he did do was in Samoa before they were a committed couple.
He literally got a yeast infection in his mouth, and you think that was from “online sort of things”?? HAHAHAH
Who gave him a pass ? Comment we’re replying to says they’re both mentally adolescent… it’s a given he sucks… but ol dial a dick is ALSO wrong. She continues the victim narrative.The real victims are their kids who have watch their dad treat their mom terribly in front of the world, and their mom go hoe mode on national television. Her own sister agrees with me.
people like to pretend that if you dont call him out in the same breath you do her then you are excusing him
Agreed, abuse is more than physical - this is class Mental Abuse. She deserves so much better then being treated like some jump off.
True. That said, she allegedly agreed to participate in the Last Resort in a good faith effort to save her marriage. I could have forgiven her for simply unblocking the guy. But blatantly having a booty call with the dick on the side while attending couples therapy is other level and just wrong. Full stop. And what does that say about the character of the guy?
you do realize that throughout the process of therapy sometimes a client unpacks/learns something about themselves and their framework that changes their outlook and approach, and that this can actually be healthy and good for all parties? they’re regularly seeing therapists at this retreat ordeal; it’s not like therapists are like oh when you first came here you said you want xyz what happened to saving your marriage no matter what. Unless you go to very specific and often religious therapists/counselors, the goal of therapy is to have the client feel like they’re informed and strong enough to make their own decisions. this is her decision. as for the flying him in part, whatever, that’s total TLC pageantry.
Jeez! the Kalani apologists and enablers are out in full force. Do you really think any therapist thinks is it’s ok or healthy to dial dick to a group therapy session… ? It seems like divorce (how about say after 1 or 2 times cheating?!) would’ve been a better look than calling the Dicksmith over for a dicking and leaving the kids with sister. Takes a whole lot of mental gymnastics for either of these morons to be correct. They should’ve focused on the therapy
Is sounds like he was doing all of his “cheating” online except for the woman he got a yeast infection from. Auselo doesn’t get a pass, but neither does Kalani. I don’t get why people are acting like cheating is ever justified. Leave your partner if you are going to cheat. You don’t get a pass to cheat because you were cheated on.
Thank you! Everyone acts like Kalani is so much better when she’s just an adult teenager.
She’s painfully immature. It stands out so much, especially with the other women. I don’t even think it’s because of her religion or upbringing because her sister seems different. She seems to have a life lol. It’s like Kalani never had any sort of real life before 90 day fiance.
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