I kind of like Kim (Kim & TJ). Yes she is sometimes insane, but her comments are gold.

I was on Danielle’s side tonight 🤮 I agree, it wasn’t the use of the card (though that would piss me off), it’s the lying and entitlement that he should be paid to leave. I’m so mad at him for making me agree with her.

Anfisa was bad but at a certain point I just respected the hustle

• Michael doesn’t need a green card just for putting up with Angela. Let him stay in Nigeria with his loved ones.

• Cast members should be praised for at least making an effort to speak their partner’s language.

I don’t get the hype with Darcey& Stacey.

Anfisa was right when she told jorge he wouldn’t be with her if she was ugly. Cuz I know he wasn’t with her for her personality.

Jihoon sucks and a lot of stuff WAS his fault. He just gets let off because Daevan is insufferable.

Nikki is scary ugly. She does look like a trans porn actress.

This is going to be a hot one. This sub really doesn’t give enough grace to participants of the other way. On the main show when people come from other countries there is much more understanding about cultural differences, and one of the nice parts of the show is watching compromises between cultural meetings happen. I get the ugly American stereotype and that it exists for a reason but it’s unfair to expect all compromise to come from their end. Especially if you supposedly love someone, you should be ok with them having some of their traditions or way of living kept that is important to them. And you can do as much research about other cultures as you want; culture shock can still exist.

I have never seen an episode and I have no interest in changing it.

I think Kalani is a liar. She is so desperate to maintain her image in the world that she will say anything to do so. Why would you stay with someone for 5 years or longer if they did the things she has said. She stated on Instagram that He has sexually assaulted multiple times. One of which resulted in their second child. Add that to the endless “cheating” accusations and I think it makes perfect sense to walk away. Instead she stays. Why? Who would stay with someone that rapes or sexually assaults them over and over again? She is so concerned with how she comes across, she wouldn’t dare face the idea of a failed marriage. Now that she is forced to, she is doing all she can to be the victim and try to maintain her image while destroying his. I am not saying Asuelu is blameless or not wrong. He has done wrong and deserves whatever comes from the choices he has made. I am saying it is hard for me to believe he has done what she said and she just sat by and accepted it.

Christian is not a gas lighter. Honestly, most of the people who get labeled that here isn’t. That label is thrown around FAR too fucking much. It isn’t a synonym for manipulative. The only person in 90 Day Fiance who probably fits the label is Ed. I also wouldn’t be surprised if Geoffrey and Mark are, but I don’t think we’ve seen enough of them.

Christian isn’t that bad of a guy especially when compared to the other men on this show, but some of y’all act like he’s right up there with Ed. He’s just awkward and rude at times. On it’s own, there is nothing wrong with chatting with random women. He just can’t take a hint or read the fucking room.

If Cleo did in fact cheat on him. . .that is NOT okay. It doesn’t fucking matter if Christian is a “gross dudebro.”

Even though Yara has ever right to decide whether or not she wants to have another kid, it is wrong of her to lie to Jovi about it. It doesn’t matter that Jovi is a whiney bitch.

Kalani has been abusive toward Asuelu and no one deserves to be abused. Not even a manchild. It’s gross how Low threatens violence all the time and that’s not okay.

I don’t think we can judge cast members as being pure evil and will hate them when we only see maybe 15 minutes (each cast member) per week. People are complicated and I believe every one of them (maybe not Ed or Meemaw, I jest) also have good qualities we don’t get to see. And I absolutely believe many of the haters have done things as stupid, selfish or toxic as the cast members they love to hate. Haters sound to me like they’re simply trying to feel superior.

So when someone says, oh, they definitely cheated, 100%, I laugh because it’s foolish to think you know better and with absolute certainty about someone they only see a tiny fraction of each week. You can’t possibly know them more than they do themselves.

Also, it kind of drives me batty when I see comments about how bad this season is, they don’t want to watch anymore, get offended over sexual comments and stuff. All that stuff is what I’m here for! I’m not bothered in the slightest over TMI sexual stuff. I laugh my face off. It’s part of why I watch. And I think there are others here who feel the same way.

Nikki is lucky Igor responded the way he did after the nature of them telling him they were trans.

Mike (of Mike and Ximena) is the real villain of that relationship. Obviously they were both using each other, but he was scary towards the end and everyone defending him mystifies me.