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Cake day: October 25th, 2023

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  • I don’t understand why people think that BoJack deserves other characters’ politeness when he’s rarely polite. It’s mindboggling. She needed to protect herself from him and his strategies to lure her back into his misery. If she’d told him in person, he would’ve had yet another opportunity to do to her what he did to Diane, PC, Todd, Wanda, etc.: lie, manipulate, guilt, overwhelm, gaslight (or whatever other emotionally abusive verb) them into staying for another round of his toxic cycling.

    I was ECSTATIC for her that she went no contact.



  • Why would I hate Diane? She tries so hard and sometimes fails. Even her worst decisions emanate from trying to do good and the despair of failure (failures that are often built into systems of civilization and power structures and that are not her fault).

    She reminds me of a quote from House: “It’s possible to believe in something and still fail to live up to it.” She tries and tries but tires out. And finally, once she is OK (on meds, exercising self-care), she self-actualizes. Her story arc feels like a blueprint for how self-righteous people pleasers can grow into happier, emotionally well-regulated adults.


  • For her sake, I hope she remains committed to no contact. People get only so many chances to be good and be better to you. After that, both parties should learn from their mistakes and move on to find new people. Leave the baggage behind.

    Even the creator of the show in interviews talks about an underlying theme of BoJack Horseman being that people come into our lives and leave, and that’s OK. No one is destined or meant to stick around forever. Enjoy and learn from them, but move on when it stops working (stops being healthy).