Yeah her reaction to finding out the truth was totally justified. And her scream when he just would not listen is maybe not what I would do but I’d want to. Maybe she’s just more in touch with her emotions than I am. In any case, I really get sick of the hate for her and the excuses for him. It’s like people just think it’s no big deal to expect women to be submissive or give up their right to choose their life path if you use culture as an excuse. It’s such bullshit. That used to be the culture pretty much everywhere and now it’s not in a lot of places. Nothing of value was lost.

India is not a monolith. Not every family expects the exact same customs, and apparently TJ’s family is especially strict. Plus he blatantly lied to her about it. And you can be collectivist all you want but when it turns into misogyny it’s not okay. Enforced gender roles are not okay. Many Indian women feel that way too.

People are free to live as traditionally as they want to but it should be a choice. And yes, I mean globally. Culture is not more important than people’s right to self-determination.

I do agree that she needs some help with her emotional regulation, but honestly if I was told after being lied to for however long they’ve been together that oh by the way the rest of your life is going to consist of daily servitude to my family I would do a lot more than scream. The reaction to the apartment might have been a bit much, but at the same time he truly wasn’t listening to her. Still, for stuff like that she could really use some coping skills or something.

You said it’s not abusive for him to lie to her, patronize her, and then expect her to be the family servant for the rest of her life.

Why does that make it okay? Many things about different cultures are beautiful. But misogyny is not one of them and culture doesn’t excuse it.

Notice how nothing in your paragraph there mentioned having any respect for her or caring about what she wanted

OMW I don’t even speak Spanish and I would have caught that if I’d been paying attention!

Some people just get a hard-on trying to justify oppressing woman. They so badly want to argue that it’s okay because of culture, as though the women who are born to that culture somehow don’t deserve rights.

Oh whatever. He’s a controlling asshole anyway. And you can say a lot of things about tiffany, but you can’t say she’s not gorgeous.

To be fair, I don’t blame her for the part where she didn’t want to live basically in a cornfield. Especially with no friends or family around and a whole new country. I would lose my mind.

I don’t understand what happened. I don’t remember exactly what I paid for Montessori School in 2002 when my daughter went, and granted it wasn’t all day, but I remember it being about $200 a month. That’s apparently the equivalent of about $342 a month now. Even if I double it to have her go all day that’s less than $700 a month. What the hell? How do people do this?

Her sister just died. I don’t think she cares if you like her picture.

I understand property tax, but if I pay $300k in rent vs 300k on a mortgage, the second scenario is the only one in which I can get any of that money back.

Imagine trying to potty train!

That potty chair would start to look tempting at 3am though.

I was excited for a minute and then I saw the € 😭.

I wish 90 was the highest. 70 sounds much better for sure. But honestly I want seasons and some actual cold weather for part of the year. I’m moving up north before that stops being a thing.

I know “warm all year” is what most people want though.

Hey people need housing but they don’t need to live there. I’m not complaining. I was just amazed people would pay that much for rent.

Plus I live in Florida. Warm all year is not a plus to me lol.

Well I thought she meant the pink and green building at first. But you could be right.

https://apps.realtor.com/mUAZ/l2rfsubs

I think this looks nicer than the ones on the show. But either way I’m still 😱.

Oh yeah, I’m definitely team sophie. I just think those prices are insane even for right there on the beach. But I guess if people pay them then that’s the market. Housing should be more affordable overall, but nobody needs to live on the beach.

Your rent actually doesn’t sound too bad. I’m in Florida and you can get a nice place for that, but not really too different from what you’re talking about. And you probably have higher wages than you would here.

Idk though. Maybe super rich don’t care anymore I guess. Cause otherwise it just seems like you could pay the same amount on a mortgage and have some equity when you get tired of it. I’d think rich people would be better with money. But then I’m not rich so I guess nobody should be taking advice from me lol.