Truthfully, I thought she had a lot of patience especially when they were burning literal shit & sprinkling piss in the house. I think she’s a a basket case at times, but I haven’t seen her do anything that should equal this amount of hate (at least that I remember) . She was literally saying she was depressed and TJ didn’t do a single thing but gaslight her into going back to America and told her it was her own fault. His family seem insufferable & I’m sure most people on here wouldn’t be able to deal with that. Sharing a space with a brother & stepmom who are condescending and rude and demand you to do things that wasn’t planned would make me scream too.
Im a white woman with a Desi husband who is almost exactly like TJ. Im a very calm person and never yell but I can 10000% understand why Kimberly screamed like that. Over-involved and enmeshed in laws? Check. Man-child who gaslights and gets defensive and is too involved with family? Check. Very high expectations from in laws and husband? Yep. Feeling very isolated and singled out as a white woman? Yepp. Everyone invalidating your emotions? Yeppppp. The conversation Kim and TJ had in this last episode is almost like a copy of the conversations I have with my husband. I can confirm the dynamic is emotionally and psychologically abusive. My situation has escalated to the point where no one can deny both husband and ils are abusive towards me. Kim has her faults and some very unpleasant traits but my God do I understand her.
Thank you. I value your perspective as a woman who has been there.
I’m sorry this is your reality. Do you have a support network?
Sorry to hear that. If you need some help or advice, post your story on r/abcdesis. The people there might be able to provide some decent advice, as they’re more familiar with the clash between India and the west when it comes to culture.
Sorry about that. I’m curious but were they like that before getting married? Seems like a lot of folks are able to put on a good front that lasts till the wedding is over.
This isn’t how anyone should live and you deserve better. No amount of love for one human being can justify being treated like garage. Please do yourself a favor and get out. Find happiness with someone who deserves you.
I’m sorry you’re going through that. ::hugs::
I too am a white woman who has in-laws from India. I agree with everything you said. Even when my mom was at the end stages of ALS and I was caring for her and trying to hold down a full time job while my husband was on a “sabbatical”, I was told to be positive. I had a Kimberly-like reaction. I relate to her so much. IYKYK. I’m just so glad I’m not halfway around the world from my friends and family. I’d be screaming my head off up and down the streets in Jaipur until I got deported.
As someone who took care of my Mom with ALS I send you my love and well wishes.
Be positive while your Mom wastes away. Eff that noise.
Then why the hell did you move to another culture that you don’t know the history, religion, nada. Not a nod to learning the religion, language? How can you suddenly realize that OMG my friends are not awake??? Times Zones??? Nobody told me. Nobody tells me any thing. Shit, they don’t understand me. Why didn’t they learn English? They knew I was to arrive shortly. But, hey I’m kinda sorta cute so I don’t give shit. Boring people are always bored.
This sucks, I’m sorry. Honestly, I don’t think you even need to be in her (or your) shoes to understand what she’s going through, just be a human being with empathy. Over-involved in-laws are very difficult to deal with, I hope you have support. Kim had none, it seems.
I hope it’s a typo and you mean “ex-husband”
I hope she meant ex as well. Her husband and in-laws sound horrible!
Hope you find someone better
I’m a black woman and I was ALWAYS on Kim’s side lol. Yes she is unpleasant and could make certain situations easier, but TJ has been obnoxious from day 1. I LIVE for her Karen’ing out at Yash, because no you’re not gonna speak to me that way! She’s nuts of course, but that’s not the issue
I hope you are ok and safe!!
Watching them is so hard. It’s like TEXTBOOK reactive “abuse” (Abuse in quotations because it’s not really abuse but that’s the name for it)
She’s being abused (at least emotionally/verbally) she’s depressed, she’s being gaslit and driven to the brink and so she snaps and “looks crazy” and looks like the “insane and abuse one” in the relationship just because she has a more explosive reaction. I hope most of y’all haven’t been there but I have. When you’re being abused, verbally, physically, psychologically, etc. when you’re struggling and they just keep pushing you to the absolute brink, egging you on, it’s absolutely likely you will just SNAP and start screaming and freaking out and looking unhinged, bc you basically do come unhinged honestly due to how much you’re taking from other people. It’s unbearably emotionally painful. You want to scream, break things, pull out your hair or just rip off your own skin.
I hope you can find a way out of that situation and start healing. You deserve happiness and peace.
I’m so sorry you have to deal with even a fraction of that. No one should be living that way. Please take care of yourself! I won’t tell you to leave, only you know your situation, but I hope you’re able to do what’s necessary to find your happiness.
Amazing insight shared from someone who went through similar circumstances
Thank you for sharing
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